Post # 1
Hi Bees, wondering if you could help me figure this out, please.
FI’s sweet grandma passed away a couple of years ago, before we were even engaged. I had really grown to love her and apparently she cared about me too because she left me a beautiful gold and pearl ring in her will that I wear for special occasions. I wore it for our engagement party to honor her and it helped us feel like she was there with us.
I really want to do the same at my wedding, but even though I will be wearing a pearl necklace and and earrings, all my jewelry, accessories, and even one of our wedding colors is silver-toned and the ring she gave me is gold.
Sorry I don’t have a better picture at the moment, but here it is. I loooove the double pearls and the symbolism of becoming two on the day of our wedding. Do you think the gold will clash with all my other jewelry?
For those of you who voted “keep the symbolism of the original ring, but find a version of it in your color” could you help me find one like it?
I found this stunning ring below, but it only comes in a size 6 the smallest and I’m a 4.5! I emailed them and they said they don’t recommend resizing based on the material.
I would like to spend no more than $150 and make sure the ring has two pearls and is “hugged” by the rest of the band kind of like this
but DOESN’T have extra stuff like little petals coming out like this
Thank you and sorry about the giant pics!
Post # 3
I think you should wear it because the symbolism is so special! A replica just won’t do!
Also, I think you should choose whatever engagement ring you want, regardless of metal color. Nobody else willc are/notice what metal your secondary rings are made of!
Post # 4
I would wear your grandmother’s ring and not even worry about it. It’s such a small part of your outfit and not even that visible since it will be on your hand. I wore a pearl/gold bracelet that belonged to my grandmother and the rest of my jewelry (and all of my bridesmaids’ jewelry) was silver. It meant a lot to me to be able to wear it. I’m sure you’ll feel the same way on your wedding day.
Post # 5
I wear my grandma’s yellow gold ring on my right hand and my white gold e-ring on my left. I don’t think its an issue at all. All of my wedding jewelry will be yellow gold other than my e-ring and w-band, whatever 🙂
I also wouldn’t do a replica; I feel like it defeats the purpose.
Post # 6
I don’t understand why you wouldn’t wear this?! It’s a ring. It has incredible meaning to you. Just wear it!!!
Post # 7
You can wear the ring and it will be fine even though the metals are different! My e-ring and wedding ring are moissanite and palladium, my accessories will be silver, and I will be wearing my Grandmother’s ring that is yellow gold and diamonds on my right hand.
Post # 8
thank you, everyone! you are all totally right. i’m obsessing about the stupid metal colors for no good reason – all that matters is the meaning of the ring. thanks for helping me see that clearer.
Post # 9
Um, I wear my gold engagement ring and assorted other gold pieces along with my assorted silver and platinum pieces all the time. White metal and gold metal do not clash, they look great together. That rule went out with matching your handbag to your shoes.