Post # 1
wow… not only is my sister acting weird, but a guy at work has quit talking to me since I got engaged… wtf?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i didn’t tell people here about fiance, cause i am older and have had my share of failed relationships. when i met fiance 1.5yrs ago, i did not talk alot about him just in case it did not work out. plus my work is not the healthiest place at times and bringing in your personal life can just cause more problems because people are not the most mature around here.
anyway, this guy found out last week i was engaged and it thought i was kidding. i said i wasn’t. he walked away and has quit talking to me. this is a 50+ year old man!!!
Post # 3
WEIRD! I keep my personal life far from my professional life. Very few of my co-workers even know that I’m dating someone (and we’ve been together for 5 years!) I am NOT excited at all about telling them when I get engaged, I have actually been thinking about wearing my ring around my neck for the first few weeks until I really get used to the fact that I’m engaged. I’m just a really private person at work… I feel like it’s nobody’s business but my own.
Sorry you’re going through that… I really don’t understand why someone would completely stop talking to you like that.
Post # 4
What a weirdo…I’d just chalk it up to him being strange and ignore it. Ick. Congrats on the engagement, btw. 🙂
Post # 5
maybe he had a crush on you
Post # 6
I’m with PaperCrane…maybe he thought he had a chance with you and now he’s disappointed!
Post # 7
@PaperCrane: he’s married!!!! … and he’s been a jerk to me so many times. We work very close together, but I never would tell him about my personal life. He has always said inappropriate things to me like swearing that I was gay because I’m older and not married. I just ignore it and move on. I know, I could go to HR, but I never did/do.
Post # 8
@TinyTina: I agree with you. I wasn’t crazy about wearing my ring to work, but I didn’t want to offend my fiance or hurt his feelings. He is really excited about the engangement… and although I am, I am not excited to share my personal life with people at work. I work in a large company, but still… my department is small and not everyone is healthy… and I don’t get along with everyone. So I wore the ring and shocked the heck out of everyone. The ‘news’ has calmed down now, thank gawd but the jerk behidn me is giving me the silent treatment, LOL!! Too strange… ugggh.
Post # 9
i’m the same way about keeping personal things quiet at work. they knew i was dating someone, but i didn’t explicitely tell anyone when we got engaged. i wore the ring, but didn’t say anything and when they realized it some people actually got ANGRY at me for not telling them. whatever.
Post # 10
@bakerysensei: I know, my sister said in regards to the man who is ignoring me “maybe he’s just shocked or mad that you didn’t share anything with him”… I said “I don’t have to share anythign with him, that’s not a requirement for work”… but then this is coming from my sister who is acting odd as well.
Post # 11
I totally know where you’re coming from. I’m keeping my engagement on the down low at work too because it’s a small venue and I can’t invite everyone to the wedding. I finally told my boss I was getting married and instead of congratualting me, she told me I had to contact HR about my name change. Ummm, thanks?
Post # 12
I know what you mean. When I got engaged, a friend of mine suddenly stopped talking to me as much. Oh, he was his usual self when I was alone, but if my fiance (now husband) was with me, I was completely ignored. He did his best to ignore my existence and avoid eye contact if we tried to include him in group activities. There were other people, all guys actually, who suddenly stopped talking to me altogether.
Anyway, maybe this guy is mad because you proved him wrong or that you took away his chance to give you a hard time.