Post # 1
Im sitting here, just pondering, and my thoughts are driving me a little crazy so i thought i might reach out for some friendly advice/ ideas. I found my absolute dream wedding location. The place is beautiful, good deal for the price ( you get a week rental ) there really is nothing about it i dislike, Except that the rental puts our budget way over what i ever wanted to spend on my wedding. I thought I was going to be this proud,$5,000 (or even $3,000.) wedding DIY bride but This place blew that all out of the water. I am blessed to say that a family member has said that they would help out greatly, HOWEVER they also just suggested the idea of putting all that money towards OUR yard and house and having it here, a backyard wedding. That money could turn our newly bought house and barren yard into something beautiful… what the hell to do? Will I regret not having my “fairytale wedding”, or will adding to our home and adding equity be a nice bonus??????? im going insane, because as most brides know, we do have this power to make the final decision. any one out there deal with this ???
Post # 3
There’s no reason you can’t have both.
The venue is just a place to have the wedding.
You can have your fairytale wedding in your backyard and have the best of both worlds.
Post # 4
I was in a similar situation where we could have picked a less expensive venue, but then there was our DREAM venue. After really thinking about it and we asked ourselves this question point blank: Could I possibly see my wedding being anywhere else in the world? The answer, for us, was no, and I don’t regret spending a little extra to have this venue. For us, it is something we are not willing to sacrifice. (To make up for it, so to speak, we are going to be DIY a LOT of things, and cutting back elsewhere).
So, calmly, ask yourself where you want to get married. For some people, it doesn’t matter all that much, for others, there may be a special, unforgettable place that they can’t let go of. It’s up to you and your FI!
Best of luck and congratulations!
Post # 5
@julies1949: I completely agree! It’s subjective to you!
Post # 6
I think there is no reason that your backyard couldnt be your dream venue. If you are making changes that are going to benefit your wedding and your property at the same time how could you go wrong. Thats using wedding money to put value into something you own. If your yard has the space I think you could decorate that to be any kind of fairytale you wanted. Obviously the choice is yours!! But there is no reason you cant have both 🙂 Good luck and congrats.
Post # 7
Thank you so much for your responses! 🙂 its no nice to know that there are always people on here that you can relate to 🙂 I will update with what i decide 🙂
Post # 8
dream venue = DIY’ing to save $$
backyard venue = you can splurge on some dream decor!
Post # 9
I’m doing a backyard wedding and just a word of warning… we thought we’d save money, but that is definitely not the case. I’m excited for it to be so personal, but there are some venues that I crossed off as too expensive but in the end probably would have worked out to cost the same! If I were you, I’d work out the things you need to rent/buy for the backyard wedding and see if it really is going to save a lot– we had to rent tent, tables, chairs, bathroom trailer, generators, get trolleys to bring guests to the reception from the hotel (b/c there’s not enough parking at the house), and hire a DOC. These are costs that we probably would not have had to incur if we were at a venue. Just something to think about!
Post # 10
I have to agree with Miss Horseshoe. I am doing a backyard wedding at my parents’ house, and it’s about the same cost as doing it somewhere else.
The rentals, catering and having to find my own vendors has been about the same cost as doing it at a venue. We chose to do it at my parents, because I thought it would save money, but it’s not. I’m lucky it’s a gorgeous venue in itself, but still.
I would do a budget for what it would cost to do a comparable wedding at your house, and see if it really does save any money.
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 11
I would say go with your dream venue or investigate other options that are a little more price friendly. Having a wedding at home sounds incredibly stressful in addition to all the other planning. Do you have any friends or family who already have a landscaped place that would be the right setting? I went to a wedding that was hosted by a family friend at their house and it was gorgeous but they put a lot of money into professional catering, hiring a DJ, and had an open bar which is always a hit.
Can I ask how many guests you are inviting?
Post # 12
We chose a more expensive venue over cheaper ones, because the more expensive one was my DREAM venue (right on the beach). It’s really a judgement call but I say that there will always be time to plant stuff in your yard and decorate your house… but only one wedding.
Post # 13
The dream location or the backyard reception can both either cost more than you anticipated, particularly if you have to rent out extras such as tents, chairs, tables, utensils, etc. Often times, private rental sites have a list of restrictions too so read the fine print. I went to a backyard reception many years ago, and it was pleasant enough. It can work if you have a small party – and/or you have a big enough yard plus enough restrooms to accommodate your guest size. If you have to rent a tent plus other essentials, you may not end up saving more than having it at your first choice.
Post # 14
I decided against my original venue and I’m now having it in my future in-laws’ back yard. The way I see it, renting the venure lasts for a week but investing the money in your home will be permenant. (Lucky for me FI’s parent’s just remodeled the backyard 2 years ago for their wedding, and it looks great and they really enjoy their nice yard) I think it’s a good investment, but if you can’t see yourself liking a backyard wedding at all then I wouldn’t do it. A big part of why I changed my mind is it just suits us better, besides totally saving out budget.