- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Last night while out to dinner, I broke down crying out of nowhere.
First, I have to say, we get along wonderfully. Disagreements are few and far between, and usually when one of us feels strongly about something, the other person is happy to oblige easily without feeling like we’re “giving in” to anything. We are in a very fair, balanced and equal relationship, and I love him dearly for that.
It has made it very easy, wedding planning-wise. We are both very laid back, so it was easy to decide on an awesome venue wedding with a tented reception under the stars at our home. We decided all we cared about was the best food, music, beer and company we could surround ourselves with. Easy peasy.
The problem that has come up is that while I want a more relaxed/less formal wedding day, I still want it to be NICE. That means not departing from some things – wedding attire is traditional (minus tux jackets for the guys since it’s July), save the dates, invitations, real place settings; etc etc.
We are essentially throwing a big party, which we do on a regular basis (this is just a much larger scale – like 250-275 people) so how do I get him to understand that this is a different kind of party?
We are hiring a KICKASS band and paying a lot of money for them – for our enjoyment and our guests. Last night he ACTUALLY suggested invited more people, JUST TO THE RECEPTION STARTING AT 7PM WHEN THE BAND STARTS PLAYING!!! Not invite them to the ceremony, or any other part of the day. He didn’t see the problem with this…..I couldn’t get through to him that you just DON’T do things like that.
I think as far as things go, he’s getting off pretty easy with the wedding – I’m not one of the brides demanding a big fancy fairytale day (no offense to anyone, that’s just not my style). He’s really looking forward to it, so I’m not saying he’s not into it. During my crying spell last night, he looked like a combination of shocked/nervous/confused. He listened, wasn’t mad at me, but still…just didn’t get it. He tried, though I’ll say that!
How do I get him to understand better where I’m coming from, that it is STILL a special day, and I still want it to be everything I’ve always dreamed of… even if it isn’t “formal”?!
(Sorry if I sound like a whiny teenager here)