Post # 1
This is my Fiance and I’s second wedding. We have 4 kids between us. We want a small wedding so that the people that we share it with we are connected with not just the extended family that we don’t see or it’s obilgatory to have them there. The dilemma is this, my dad wants me to invite my stepmom’s grown kids and his siblings and their families. My stepmom’s family because he wants to keep the peace, we don’t get along. The only one that would probably show is one step sister that I somewhat have a relationship with, and his brother that I also have somewhat of a relationship with. Ugh, we really wanted to just keep it to the people that we have relationship with to share this time with. I hate that it’s turned into this political thing, Suggestions on how to keep the vision of our wedding how we would like it?
Post # 3
I feel your pain- I am in a similar position. FI and I have two solutions, 1 we will invite who we want to invite and no one else or we are thinking of eloping.
Just remember its you and your FI’s day, do what makes you two happy! Have you spoken to you dad about this?
Post # 4
I feel your pain.
I would suggest that you be honest with yourself about the potential consequences of not inviting these people- if avoiding these consequences is not worth it, then just set your boundaries with your family.
Communication is key- sit down with your family and explain how you feel!
Post # 5
@Miss Pinup: *sigh* Yes I’ve talked to him. We talked about how his siblings, except for one would even come. I he did concede so that I am only being requested to invite my Step mom’s kids and families. Only one daughter would come anyway. I have a kinda relationship with both. I’m with you on whole just getting it done thing!!! Crazy how such a happy time, can turn into such a political thing :/
Post # 6
@Evie19: Thank you!!! I did talk to my dad, we compromised, but then I thought about it and wasn’t as good with it. It is more than just having the people, but the issues behind it. I am being asked to invite my step mom’s family so they “don’t feel left out” yet that feeling is not returned for my sister and me and our families. At this point I am just doing it out of respect for my dad, yet trying to stand my ground about our vision for our wedding.