- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
As of late, I’ve seen so many adorable engagement photos from both friends and photographers I’m looking into for the wedding… I LOVE pictures, and with all my college friends was always known for being the 1 you could always count on to have her camera with her to take pictures. I really, really, like pictures. That being said, I was really excited to get engagement photos, since my FI & I don’t have very many recent pictures of just the 2 of us together, and I just love photo ops in general.
However, we are 6 hours away from where our wedding will be taking place (in Ohio right now, planning the wedding in StL, where I’m originally from), so any wedding photographer I get that offers e-pics as part of the package, is based out of St. Louis, and we don’t really ever get back there (I’m in grad school right now, so free time is pretty scarce). FI’s parents came to visit at the end of September, and I had mentioned something about engagement pictures when we were all just hanging out outside bbq-ing one afternoon, and how I really wanted to get them, but didn’t really have the money right now, and didn’t know when FI and I would both be back in StL together, so we wouldn’t be getting the e-pics from a wedding package any time.
FI’s parents I guess talked about it at some point during the day, and told me that FMIL (who also loves picture taking) would take our e-pics for us around campus & stuff the next day, since she “has a really nice camera that takes great pictures” (words of FFIL). FFIL said if I didn’t like the pictures, that they would pay for professional pictures to be taken, but also said “The only difference you’re going to get with a professional though is that they can edit the pictures.”
Actually we’d get someone who does this for a living, and has creative ideas for cute poses, knows how to work with the lighting, etc… Not to mention how rude I’d feel saying “Sorry I don’t like your pictures, so could you write that check for me to get a professional?” Ugh. I know they were trying to be helpful, but when you say things like the ONLY difference is the editing, and “if you don’t like FMIL’s photos then we’ll pay” it’s like well how can I take you up on your offer without sounding rude?
Just frustrated because it seems everyone I know is getting way cute e-pics done that look great, and when I sent FMIL a mockup of a design I made for our STDs to get her take, she said she liked it, but suggested we do 1 that has a photo of the 2 of us on it. Well, the pics she shot for us came out okay with a handful of decent pics, but most of the ones that were good of me weren’t good of my FI & vice versa (ie his eyes were closed, or there was some weird lighting on half of 1 of our faces, forgot to take sunglasses off, awkward posing she wanted me to do– she kept wanting his hand on top of mine.. um, I want to show off my ring, actually, not cover it! haha) so now I’m just really frustrated because I’d love to do a photo STD but I’m not crazy about any of our e-pics, and it would just be nice to have some newer pictures of us that are done by a professional! So frustrating when someone offers a gift/service with a caveat like “If you don’t like it THEN we’ll pay for it” so you sound ungrateful when you want the real deal.
Just needed to vent!