(Closed) Was anybody else shocked at the size of their guestlist?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Was you guestlits bigger than anticipated? What did you do about it?
    Our guestlist was bigger than we thought it would be. : (64 votes)
    52 %
    Our guestlist was smaller than we thought it would be. : (6 votes)
    5 %
    Our guestlist was pretty much what we thought it would be. : (21 votes)
    17 %
    We cut people from the guestlist. : (19 votes)
    16 %
    We left the guestlist - there wasn't anyone we didn't want there. : (10 votes)
    8 %
    I want to see the results without clicking that pesky "see results" button. : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Uhhh yeah. Day 1 of engagement we naively thought we’d be sending invitations to about 100 people, max. HAH F-ING HAH. We invited over 200 once the families added people that we’d kind of forgotten actually existed.

    Post # 5
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    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

    Ours is 178. 180 if you count us. The max allowed in our venue is 180, so it’s going to have to stay at that. When we first made our list, it was right around 150, and that included +1s for our single friends, and we figured around 10-15 people for each set of parents. WOWIE ZOWIE were we wrong. We’ve cut +1s, cut some friends who we’re not that close to, and we’re still at the absolute max for the venue. And the budget spreadsheet is crying. I guess that’s what happens when parents are paying–and they have been incredibly generous, I am not complaining at all. Just we were surprised how many people they wanted to invite or felt like they had to have there. I am pretty sure that my parents have invited people that I will not recognize: friends of theirs from college and such who they keep in touch with but rarely see. Le sigh. We’re excited though, we love huge parties, and it’ll be a good time.

    Post # 6
    Member
    870 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We don’t have as many as you ladies do, but I was still surprised.  I was hoping for like 80-90 people on the guest list.  I had about 45 people (55 counting some mutual friends that we both put on our lists), so I figured we were set.  Then FI added his list to mine and now we’re at 110 AFTER cutting, close to the max for our venue (we were at 140 before the cut).  He had nearly 40 people with just his family (and almost half of that is children…)  I’m not big on crowds (understatement of the year), so this is going to kill me.  

    Honestly, I would have been fine just inviting my parents, grandmother, and sister and his mom and brothers.  But then he has close cousins that he INSISTS are to be included in with his siblings, and if we invite his cousins and not mine, my cousins would get mad, and… you see where this is going?  Mom was right.  We should have eloped…

    Post # 7
    Member
    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I used to think that we’d end up inviting 150 andendwith 120 but once we actually sat down and made a list we are inviting 200 people!  Where do they all come from?

    Post # 8
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    1831 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    It was a little depressing to list down all of our family and friends, AND plus ones…and still not break 75.

    Post # 9
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    2488 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We guesed high at 150 and apparently we guessed pretty poorly beacuse we invited over 300 people ( this is including plus ones and familys) and had to stop sending invites to people cause it just got insane.

    but we have an open receptino ( this is what our guest list for ceremony is family and close frineds only ( still 150 people and I’m worried about room!)

    anyway the reception is open. we’ll have 300 cup cakes and veggie and cracker treys so I don’t expect people to stay all night or anything and it will just be a fun get together.

    Post # 10
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    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I thought for sure we would have under 150 people at our wedding but my side of the list is at 146!  I’m afraid to ask FI’s for his.  At least I have a long while before any final decisions need to be made 🙂

    Post # 11
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    872 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    When we first got engaged we thought we were going to invite 13 people, then we thought 15 people then we grudgingly moved it to 20 people…..we’re now at 58 people. I know it is not 100+ wedding but our wedding budget is totally feeling the strain and that is with families and their plus ones and our closest of friends. Ouch! 

    Post # 12
    Member
    10456 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Yep. It adds up so fast!! We will be around 200 also.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1603 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Initially I thought our guest list was going to be around 200. But then I got together with my parents and my mom busted out the giant list of 1st cousins — she has like 60 of them, literally. 

    So our guest list is around 260 – 270. Surprised

    Thankfully my parents are paying for the food…..lol 

    Post # 14
    Member
    456 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    ours is 300 people and I invited 330… gees. It always turns out to be more. And its hard to cut people. Choose those people that you see the most and are closest to

    Post # 15
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    1030 posts
    Bumble bee

    We guessed 100 for the meal and we have… 95!

    An extra 35 to the evening reception. Max capacity of venue – 130. Couldn’t have been more perfect Smile

    Post # 16
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    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I was surprised at how small my husband’s guest list was. I know he doesn’t have that many friends, but I guess that goes for his family too. They only invited some close family members. A total of 27 people (including kids) for their side (including my hubs friends and their girlfriends). My side… we invited about 150 people. 

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