- 4 years ago
because we were.
my fiance’s brother proposed to his girlfriend in october 2012.
my fiance proposed to me in april 2013.
my MIL legitimately came up to me the day after we got engaged (we work together) and said, “just so you know, we’re not going to discuss your engagement around (fiance’s brother) because we don’t want to take away their spotlight”
so what you’re saying is that our engagement will be IGNORED because your OTHER son got engaged over 6 months before we did? would you have rather us put our lives on hold until a time you deem appropriate? i’m not allowed to be excited?
their wedding will be in march 2014 and ours in august 2014.
his mom DIDN’T EVEN CONGRATULATE us on facebook but instead made this status:
“well i guess i better start saving…”
it was honestly one of the hardest months of my life. i was anxiously anticipating getting engaged for SO long, it finally happened and i couldn’t even enjoy it because my MIL treated us like absolute sh**.
when she asked to see my ring the morning after the proposal she had NOTHING nice to say, just scoffed and said “i have no idea how he could afford that.” and walked away. we have never asked you for a penny, you have no business commenting on our financial situation.
it got to a point where i reached out to my fiance’s brother & his fiance regarding the issue asking if THEY were upset about our engagement and felt like we were stealing their limelight and they both said absolutely not and that it was ridiculous we were being treated that way.
my fiance and his brother both had to contact their mother and basically told her to knock it off.
MY OWN MOM contact my MIL via email saying basically “i realize you have mixed emotions regarding their engagement but will you please try to just ACT happy for them. we are SO happy for our daughter and it breaks our heart to see her so upset during what should be the most amazing time of her life.” + a little attitude because she was royally pissed off.
my parents offered to pay for the wedding due to the drama. like she legitimately has zero responsibilities but show up and she still had/has the balls to comment on every single thing.
my fiance’s father is a picky eater and when we showed her our menu she said “…well you do realize my husband won’t eat any of this, right?”
fortunately things have calmed down but i still hold this little bit of resentment towards her. she made the first month after i got engaged a living hell and it just sucked.