Post # 1
While I was planning my wedding, I often heard to it being referred to as “THE BIGGEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE.” (Emphasis only partially exaggerated ). I got married about two weeks ago, and I LOVED my wedding. Everything went off without a hitch (excluding the weather, but that was fine… we had a contingency plan), and we went on a great mini-moon. We returned on Sunday, and have gotten to speak with a lot out guests, all of whom LOVED our wedding almost as much as we did. Success!
Only this week have I begun to miss my wedding – mostly becuase we were engaged for two years beforehand, and because most of it was DIY, I pretty much began as soon as I had the ring on my finger. I’ve started to get back into the groove of real life, and it makes me think back to it being referred to as THE BIGGEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. It makes me sad to think my life has “peaked” in a way. I understand why it gets labelled this way – all the time, energy, effort, not to mention money, that goes into it. But there are so many more things I want to do with my life – travel, progress in my career, enjoy my family, run a marathon, maybe write a book (Who knows? Dream Big!), and it just makes me sad that the day that is considered THE BIGGEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE is over and done.
I think I’m also sad because I’ve come to a virtual dead end in my career and am actively looking for other employment, combined with the fact we’re getting major renovations done on our house, and the place is a disaster. Also, I suffered a knee injury, so the passion that I wanted to pursue after the wedding, running, has been sidetracked indefinitely.
Am I alone? Does anyone else feel this way? I’m hoping that this feeling will go away once all of these other little life problems have sorted themselves out.
Post # 3
@mgol25: I’m pretty sure that phrase means “thus far” which has nothing to do with every huge day and moment you’ll have for the rest of your life!
Post # 4
Nope it was the day we became parents for the first time. That happened before the wedding though. (:
Post # 5
It wasn’t. And I’m happy, because that would mean that everything else from there is downhill.
Post # 6
It won’t be mine 🙂
It will be a special day to remember (fondly, I hope!) but it’s unlikely to make the Top 10.
The day we met was much more important, though I didn’t know it at the time!
Post # 7
I feel like I had a bunch of great life moments before the wedding, too – some of which I consider my proudest moments. I guess a wedding is different because you get to share your joy with so many family and friends.
Post # 8
My wedding day was great- but not the best or most important day of my life.
Post # 9
I think it’ll be one of the greatest days, but I think the day when I birth a human being will be far greater…lol
Post # 10
I feel like there are other way more important days. At this point we already are commited to eachother and are spending the rest of our lives together. The wedding doesn’t change that, it is basically just a way to tell everyone else that and an excuse for a party.
I don’t want any day to be the best of my life, unless it’s the day I die. Because anything sooner means it’s all downhill from there.
Post # 11
I agree that it usually means biggest day SO FAR. And maybe it will be someone’s best day ever…maybe their wedding is just that awesome! I still think that college was the best time of my life…something I hesitate to say to a lot of people, b/c I now have a child, and so many parents feel like the time with their kids is the best time ever…but I don’t feel that way YET. Everyone is different.
If my wedding can beat St. Patrick’s Day 2007 (or the following summer), then maybe it will be the best day of my life!
Post # 12
I loved my wedding day. However, I am currently 6 months pregnant and I know the day that we bring our daughter into this world will be much bigger than our wedding day.
Post # 13
@joya_aspera: Not even in the top 10?!
My dding will be great I’m sure, and my honeymoon will be a trip I will always remember. And I bet it’ll be the one day when all the attention is on me, that is likely never to happen again. But will it be my only great day? Certainly not. My sons birthday was very special. The day we bring a new adopted baby girl home will be pretty awesome. All of our future trips will likely be awesome, and so on and so on.
So yes, our wedding will be great, but the greatest day evar? Maybe not.
Post # 14
Idk, that phrase never worked for me. I guess to me the relationship, the things we do, are much more important than a day. And I have my career and my life purpose, these things are bigger to me Than a day.
Post # 15
So far it’s been the best day. The most important day thus far was my college graduation.
Post # 16
No, it was one of many amazing days I have had and will continue to have in my life. I’ll leave it at that since one time I got bitched out on a thread for my feelings on weddings being the most important day of your life.