Post # 1
It’s a complicated situation with too much detail to type out (I just tried) but basically I might not be able to take off the day before my wedding.
I was hoping to have the day off to travel down to my parents’ and set up the venue (putting up bunting etc). I also wanted to be there for a rehearsal of 4 of my friends singing an anthem for the ceremony. Now it looks like I might have to travel down after work on Friday night, so I wouldn’t make it to my parents’ until about 8pm.
FI will probably be able to get the day off and we have lots of brothers, friends, family etc who could set up in my absence.
Did anyone else have this issue? Was it ok? Need some reassurance here.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
Aww. I am sure everything will be fine! 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@Audrey2: It’ll be ok! Two things: you have to make sure that you have a team of people willing to show up and work. If you think your friends & family wouldn’t mind, that’s great. Then, a week or two beforehand, get them to solidly commit to a particular time frame. (Get your fi to do it if you feel like a bad guy, that’s what I did!)
Then, make sure you have very detailed maps, inspiration pictures, and directions for each thing you want set up (eg bunting, ceremony decor, lighting, whatever). Then tell them if little questions come up, they/your FI should make executive decisions. I did this for some last-minute setup the morning of the wedding when I couldn’t be there, and it came together perfectly.
It’ll be ok as long as you have a team specifically scheduled and they know exactly what you want (and know to just decide on things if it wasn’t explained in your maps / pics / directions).
Post # 5
@lolot: thank you ladies! I just found out today that this could be an issue, so thanks for the reassurance. I have a great relationship with my parents and future in laws and I trust them and FI to get it right. so hopefully it should be ok! it would be a shame not to have that day though but never mind. Thanks 🙂
Post # 6
I had the Friday off before the wedding, but would’ve been fine if I hadn’t had the day off. We didn’t start taking things to the venue until about 4 on the Friday anyway. We didn’t have much to do really, just bring the centrepieces/favours/guest book and a couple other things to the venue and set them up on the tables. Then there was just the rehearsal and dinner. We could’ve adjusted the times if we needed to if I hadn’t had the day off 🙂 The wedding party and our parents helped set up too.