Post # 1
This still drives me batty three weeks later. So I decided to ask to see how common it was. When I was walking down the aisle, my MIL left her seat and went into the aisle for better pictures of me. She stayed there until I was about 10 steps away, completely obscured my view of my groom, so I missed some of the anticipation of walking down *to* him and also his reaction of seeing me. While the rest of the wedding went well and this may seem minor to some folks…it’s still emotionally frustrating and there’s nothing that can be done to fix this and give me back that memory. Really, who does that? Stand in the bride’s aisle?
I was never a fan of the first look, but this did make me wish I had done so, so that this moment wouldn’t have been tarnished.
Did this happen to you? Your photographer, another guest, a kid?
Post # 3
Wow that’s pretty rude. I’m guessing she just got caught up in the moment and wasn’t thinking? Hopefully you can let this go as time goes on, you did get to see your groom, it was just delayed a bit! And if it makes you feel any better, no one was in my aisle and I don’t remember what my grooms face looked like.
Post # 4
There wasn’t for me but this is a common problem I think. I’ve been to quite a few weddings where guests have to enter their seats from the oustide (not the aisle) and then there is ribbon or something strung along the seats on either side of the aisle so they cannot go that way— might be a good thing to do for anyone who is worried about this happening to them.
Post # 5
@Natalieh86: Yes, I know she didn’t mean to take it away from me, but that doesn’t change the fact that the moment/memory is gone of walking down to him, as opposed to his mother! In part my frustration is probably compounded because she’s just done this sort of thing more than once. She called me in panic one day to let me know about the insurance company calling trying to reach my then-bf because the details on a ring were faxed in upside down (blank side) and needed to be resent. Yup, knew I was getting the ring that weekend, no surprise there. [ETA: He had left his phone in the car for 5 mins while he picked up a cup of coffee…it’s not like they couldn’t reach him for hours.]
DH’s brother is engaged, hopefully she doesn’t do it to them too.
Post # 6
Yes, two larger members of DH’s family had pushed themselves over the line of the rose petals and into my aisle. I walked with both my parents and the three of us could not fit through that together so mom had to back off and navigate around. She’s still pissed.
Post # 7
The photographer was! It was so distracting and it made me wanna run down the aisle. lol
Post # 8
@CorgiTales: Unfortunately, it wouldn’t have helped because she was in the first row, but that’s definitely a reason for the swag I hadn’t thought about. We put up swag for the back set of chairs (place seated 250+, we had 100 guests) but not the first because my mom was concerned about safety – people being able to exit.
Post # 9
@kay01: I would start calling her Thunder Stealer. For real though, someone should say something to her so your brother in law and his fiance don’t have to go through the same thing!
Post # 10
This did not happen to me… at least not yet, I’m getting married in October so we’ll see!
But at a friend’s wedding the bride’s aunt stepped out into the aisle to take a photo after the bride passed by and STEPPED ON HER VEIL! She was actually standing in the aisle on the bride’s veil for a good 10 seconds. The woman didn’t realize she was standing on the veil because it was a verrry long veil and the woman was preoccupied with taking pictures I’m sure.. but it almost ripped the veil off the brides head as she continued to walk! My fiancée ran over and gently “lifted” the woman off the veil so the bride could continue walking down the aisle. It was almost a disastrous moment.
So sorry this happened to you. I agree with PP.. your first look was just delayed a bit 😉
Post # 11
Wow, I learned something new today…
And that is pretty amazing because at 50+ Years old, and having been to dozens of weddings, I thought I knew much / seen much over the years
The “swag” that goes with the front pews reserved seating, isn’t just there as decoration / deterrent from folks who aren’t close family members sitting there… it is also meant as a way to prevent folks upfront from getting into the aisle when the Bride makes her entrance.
Totally makes sense.
Way back when, for my first wedding (30+ Years ago), I don’t recall anyone of my Guests getting into the aisle to photograph… but our photographer was certainly there, but my memory tells me he was pretty discreet about it… because I totally remember being able to see my Ex all the way down the aisle. A cherished memory.
BTW, that was pretty rude of your MIL, but as others said, she probably got caught up in the moment… your Hubby should do his Brother & FSIL a favour, and tell them to prepare for this (hang swag)… or maybe someone should have a “chat” with Mom.
On the otherhand, I don’t have words for her calling you up and spoiling the surprise about the ring / proposal. Sheesh… some people !!
Post # 12
As a photographer I dont even do that. I squat down at the front on the side of the isle & photograph that way. I would have been like sit down Or loose it. lol
Post # 13
Nope, not at all… and I’m not even sure where the photographers were they were that inconspicuous!
That totally sucks that she did that, and compiled with her ruining of the surprise about the ring/proposal… I would be livid. She seems like a kill joy, and I don’t know how I would deal with that.
Post # 14
Oh my gosh I didn’t know this happened!!! Shesh, I hope not!