Post # 1
I’ve aways dreamed of having a big wedding. 6 years and 1 kid later, my fiance and I decided that we’re just going to have a small wedding with our immediate family. Not exactly what I wanted but I was trying to be realistic. We had it planned for December and we were just about to put down the deposit for the venue…
but last night my fiance told me that he really doesn’t want to do it that way. He feels guilty for leaving out so many important family members. We talked for hours about this last night, I cried half the time because I was so stressed out. There is no way we can afford to have both of our giant families at our wedding in 2 months. So…we decided to push the wedding date back. Not 100% sure on the date, but probably May or June of 2013. It gives us more time to save and plan.
There is this gorgeous venue that I always said I’d get married at but never really thought we’d be able to. My fiance took it upon himself to call the venue today (usually I do all this kind of stuff lol) to get information & make an appt for a tour and he talked to the lady for a long time. I heard him telling her “it’s my fiance’s dream to get married here so I’m going to do whatever I can to make it happen.” Aww! Anyways, surprisingly this beautiful place is very affordable and actually cheaper than a lot of other places I’ve seen.
I’m still stressed about the money though. We’re in the process of buying a house so money is about to get tighter. Thankfully, I have a lot of my family helping us. My parents want to put down the deposit for the venue, my aunt is buying my dress, my other aunt is a hair dresser and will do mine and my bridesmaids hair on the wedding day. Plus my sister and her boyfriend are booking our hotel suite and my other sister just told me that her and her husband will be throwing our bachelor/bachelorette parties! I’m very grateful for everyone but the money part worries me. What if we don’t save enough by the time of the wedding?! Do y’all have any tips for saving for the wedding on a tight budget?
Post # 3
Sounds like you have a great FI and lots of family/friends who love and want to help! Lucky girl. We had to push our wedding date back to save a little more money. (We’re actually waiting for our tax returns too!) But I am buying things a little at a time and I’m also doing lots of diy. We are a pretty simple couple though. Good luck 🙂
Post # 4
I’m so glad for you and with the help of your family, you are about make your wedding dreams come true! Congrats!! 🙂
Have you set aside a reasonable budget and perhaps a saving plan for the wedding? If not, it’s time to do so! This is so that it will not interfere with the home purchase and hopefully, not put so much stress on the money issues. FI and I are also in the process of buying our first place together. Thus, I decided that he takes charge of the home purchase while I head the wedding planning.
I agree that DIY is pretty much the way to go to save on money. Some cost-saving tips are:
– Make it a daytime reception. It’s always cheaper to serve lunch or brunch than dinner.
– Create your own wedding invitations, menu cards & escort cards.
– Make your own wedding favors, which can double as escort cards.
– Buy and use flowers of that season, which tends to be cheaper. Buy them in bulk and have your aunts/ sisters to help arrange them into decorated mason jars perhaps?
– If you don’t mind, purchase pre-owned wedding dresses instead of brand new ones or shop one in a sample sale.
– DIY your own table centerpieces. You can find lotsa inspiration online.
– Offer beer, wines and a signature cocktail instead of a full bar.
– Order a small or 2-tier wedding cake and then supplement with a sheet cake hidden in the kitchen.
Post # 5
What a wonderful FI. He is amazing for loving you so much, he wants your dream fir you. Your family also sounds so supportive. It’s wonderful to hear positive stories.
In terms of budget I would ask myself with each decision “do we really need this” and if so, what’s the best buy for my dollar. I saw somewhere online a guide on what to splurge on and what to forego. For instance I honestly do not recall what kind of chairs I sat on at recent weddings and I don’t even remember centerpieces. I also will not use a shot glass with couples ame and date. For flowers try silk. I found gorgeous real touch on Etsy Flowers by the Vase.
To me a beautiful ceremony, some nice food and i don’t mean over the top, a great DJ because I love to dance. A lot of the other stuff, while beautiful, is fluff in my opinion and could save on budget.
It will be wonderful.
Post # 6
My FI and I are kind of in the same boat as you (just bought a house) so we did our own invites, programs, guestbook, signs, etc., basically anything that needed to be printed we did DIY. I’m also doing my own flowers (eek! I know), but I have flowerless centerpieces, and only 2 attendants on my side. I made my own jewelry and used the materials I already had to make gifts for my girls. For the guys, since they’re all into fishing, I’m making them lure boutonnier alternatives. Also, shop around for a photographer, especially for someone who is just starting out and trying to get a name for themselves.
Congrats on having such a wondeful, supportive FI and family. Don’t worry things will work out, plus there’s tons of ideas all over this board. Good luck with everything, I’m sure your wedding will be wonderful!
Post # 7
You seem to have a nice family and friends willing to help out, that’s great.
As for tips of how to save on a tight budget, I don’t know more than:
Do your own lunches
Don’t spend on clothes/makeup
Only buy neccesseties and that counts for you, FI and your household, and try the cheaper brands. sometimes they actually are better.
Try to limit outings that cost money.
Try to recycle and buy 2nd hand when applicable.
Try to find good deals on food and freeze meals for lunches etc.
I hope it helps, it helps for us to save up.
Try to use artifical flowers. If you have pots and a garden (even a small one), plant your own (depending on the season at your place ofc)
Try to maybe limit the foods to tasty sandwiches, foods on cute platters that are easy, simple to make. If you are really trying to cut down, don’t serve alcohol or have a cash bar.
Try to get 2nd hand jewelry from weddingbee or some other site. Etsy has really nice ones that don’t need to make you broke.
If you have a photographer friend/acquantance, ask her/him to photog the wedding for a cheaper price.
Post # 8
I thrifted all my vases for centerpieces and the florist is allowing me to bring them in instead of buying hers. I also did a lot of my printing myself. Lunch instead of dinner. Eating in/bag lunch. You can do it! Sam’s Club has premade wedding flowers for pretty cheap. They come in 2-3 days before. A friend of mine is doing this for her wedding. She’s saving a bundle. It is possibe to have a beautiful wedding on a budget.