(Closed) Was going to get marred in December…now changing EVERYTHING. So stressed!!!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Sounds like you have a great FI and lots of family/friends who love and want to help! Lucky girl. We had to push our wedding date back to save a little more money. (We’re actually waiting for our tax returns too!) But I am buying things a little at a time and I’m also doing lots of diy. We are a pretty simple couple though. Good luck 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m so glad for you and with the help of your family, you are about make your wedding dreams come true! Congrats!! 🙂

Have you set aside a reasonable budget and perhaps a saving plan for the wedding? If not, it’s time to do so! This is so that it will not interfere with the home purchase and hopefully, not put so much stress on the money issues. FI and I are also in the process of buying our first place together. Thus, I decided that he takes charge of the home purchase while I head the wedding planning. 

I agree that DIY is pretty much the way to go to save on money. Some cost-saving tips are:

– Make it a daytime reception. It’s always cheaper to serve lunch or brunch than dinner. 

– Create your own wedding invitations, menu cards & escort cards. 

– Make your own wedding favors, which can double as escort cards.

– Buy and use flowers of that season, which tends to be cheaper. Buy them in bulk and have your aunts/ sisters to help arrange them into decorated mason jars perhaps? 

– If you don’t mind, purchase pre-owned wedding dresses instead of brand new ones or shop one in a sample sale. 

– DIY your own table centerpieces. You can find lotsa inspiration online.

– Offer beer, wines and a signature cocktail instead of a full bar. 

– Order a small or 2-tier wedding cake and then supplement with a sheet cake hidden in the kitchen. 

 

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What a wonderful FI. He is amazing for loving you so much, he wants your dream fir you. Your family also sounds so supportive. It’s wonderful to hear positive stories.

In terms of budget I would ask myself with each decision “do we really need this” and if so, what’s the best buy for my dollar. I saw somewhere online a guide on what to splurge on and what to forego. For instance I honestly do not recall what kind of chairs I sat on at recent weddings and I don’t even remember centerpieces. I also will not use a shot glass with couples ame and date. For flowers try silk. I found gorgeous real touch on Etsy Flowers by the Vase.

To me a beautiful ceremony, some nice food and i don’t mean over the top, a great DJ because I love to dance. A lot of the other stuff, while beautiful, is fluff in my opinion and could save on budget.

It will be wonderful.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My FI and I are kind of in the same boat as you (just bought a house) so we did our own invites, programs, guestbook, signs, etc., basically anything that needed to be printed we did DIY.  I’m also doing my own flowers (eek! I know), but I have flowerless centerpieces, and only 2 attendants on my side.  I made my own jewelry and used the materials I already had to make gifts for my girls.  For the guys, since they’re all into fishing, I’m making them lure boutonnier alternatives.  Also, shop around for a photographer, especially for someone who is just starting out and trying to get a name for themselves.

Congrats on having such a wondeful, supportive FI and family.  Don’t worry things will work out, plus there’s tons of ideas all over this board.  Good luck with everything, I’m sure your wedding will be wonderful!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

You seem to have a nice family and friends willing to help out, that’s great.

As for tips of how to save on a tight budget, I don’t know more than:

Eat in

Do your own lunches

Don’t spend on clothes/makeup

Only buy neccesseties and that counts for you, FI and your household, and try the cheaper brands. sometimes they actually are better. 

Try to limit outings that cost money.

Try to recycle and buy 2nd hand when applicable.

Try to find good deals on food and freeze meals for lunches etc. 

I hope it helps, it helps for us to save up.

 

Wedding related: 

Try to use artifical flowers. If you have pots and a garden (even a small one), plant your own (depending on the season at your place ofc)

Try to maybe limit the foods to tasty sandwiches, foods on cute platters that are easy, simple to make. If you are really trying to cut down, don’t serve alcohol or have a cash bar.

Try to get 2nd hand jewelry from weddingbee or some other site. Etsy has really nice ones that don’t need to make you broke.

If you have a photographer friend/acquantance, ask her/him to photog the wedding for a cheaper price. 

 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I thrifted all my vases for centerpieces and the florist is allowing me to bring them in instead of buying hers. I also did a lot of my printing myself. Lunch instead of dinner. Eating in/bag lunch. You can do it! Sam’s Club has premade wedding flowers for pretty cheap. They come in 2-3 days before. A friend of mine is doing this for her wedding. She’s saving a bundle. It is possibe to have a beautiful wedding on a budget.

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