Post # 1
My partner and I just got a puppy. As everything is new and the pup can be anxious, we’ve been taking turns petsitting and making sure he gets familiar and that gradually he can learn to be home alone.
Early in the week, my girlfriends said we should have a ladies night so I asked if my partner and pup can drop by for a quick bite at dinner, show off the new addition to the family, then they can be on their merry way. They said they were fine with it. However I couldn’t get a booking at one of the dog-friendly cafes so I conference called everyone to tell them partner and pup won’t be coming but stick to plans for dinner and drinks.
Suddenly one of the girls said she had decided to ask her boyfriend as well (without telling us til now) and since that’s happening, now the other 2 girls said they’ll be inviting their hubbie/ Bf. I laughed and joked “whoa now I feel left out” at which one of the girls (Kaila) snapped “get a petsitter so you guys can get social lives again!” I just laughed it off and said to go ahead with plans but I felt, was that necessary? We’ve only had puppy for 1 week! Everyone said we’ll reconvene and decide what to do but all this has just left everyone awkward and myself feeling a bit miffed, especially as Kaila made us change plans for her all the time. Like for this meetup, she made us change the meetup date 3 times!
Just need to vent! Anyone been in similar situation? Seriously feeling a tad put out by what just happened.
Post # 3
I think you’re taking it a bit too personally, if she is not a dog owner you really can’t expect her to understand how anxious a puppy can be about being left alone. I’d just let it go.
Post # 4
i think the frustration is it was a girls only dinner then it was girls plus FI and dog then back to girls then girls plus a boyfriend then a few extra boyfriends and then you…. who started the enitre chain of changes said that you felt left out – next time just keep a ladies night out and then this wouldnt have happen
vent away….. we all do it
Post # 5
yeh well it was actually all the girls who said they wanted to see the puppy and they kept trying to arrange a meetup around seeing the dog. so at least i asked first if the bf can eat with us, show off the dog then leave us to the rest of our girls night.
just trying to me understanding about the frustration in plan changes, but still wasn’t nice to be snapped at when this person changes our plans everytime we go out. trying to be understanding…very very understanding….deep breaths…
Post # 6
What a rude thing to say. I can understand why you would be upset as I would be too. It’s not really mean per say, it’s just an annoyance that could have been done without you know??
Post # 7
Our puppy was a little anxious at first, but we started to ease him into crate training by putting him in it while we were there or sleeping and making it very cozy, giving him treats, making it very pleasant, overall. I understand not leaving the puppy at alone for long periods of time, but a couple hours out really will be okay! Otherwise you risk having a dog with serious seperation anxiety!!
Post # 8
@bananarama: I agree, there was a show a few months ago on Animal Planet where they were talking about owner causing the behavior problems in their dogs and cats and not knowing it. they would get separation anxiety and act out and the owner wouldnt know why, OP have you thought about setting the puppy up for training? a few hours alone should be fine as long as you get the puppy used to the crate first, put an old blanket or something that smells like you in with him to comfort him
Post # 9
I might be a bit harsh, but if one of my friends snapped at me- I’d just not bother with the dinner at all, and would tell them maybe another time!
(Really I’d just prefer to play with my new puppy )
Post # 10
Seriously… when DH and I first rescued our pup we couldn’t leave the house together because when we did the dog got all houdini and was able to unlock his crate, and then proceeded to poop everywhere and kick it up the walls and cieling. Yeah, I’d rather just stay home than come back to that… Our friends gave us crap because we were letting a dog “run our lives” (kind of true) but after we were able to cope with his separation anxiety and learned what works for all of us as a FAMILY it’s been 10000x better.
She needs to relax and realize that this is just another step up in your lives. Next comes marriage, then (possibly) a baby. What will she say then? “Find somebody to dump your newborn on so you can have social lives again” ?? yeahhhhh okay lady, wake up.
**I am not implying those with newborns can’t find a babysitter and have a good time, just that it’s really hard to stay away for too long, especially if breastfeeding.
Post # 11
Yeh we’ve seen seperation anxiety with other peoples’ dogs and have been crate training from the start. Still, only been 1 week so have to ease the poor critter into it!
I was very very close to cancelling give some lame excuse, but thought I’ll just put this down to someone who doesn’t understand what its like to have a newborn baby or pet. Don’t want to hold a grudge against me friends…however if this gets brought up again, I’ll be sure to bark back twice as loud. Grrr.