Was I in bad taste? (Wedding party question)

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@SimplyEuphoric: Nope. Your bridal party isn’t decided by partners of other people. You picked who you wanted to be in your party, and there is no reason to include someone who simply feels like they should be. 

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@SimplyEuphoric:  I agree, your bridesmaids are your friends and his groomsmen are his friends. They have nothing to do with each other.

ETA: Or family members, whoever you choose. That’s what I meant to say.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@SimplyEuphoric:  Not at all. What did you say when he made that comment to you?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@SimplyEuphoric:  I’m more confused as to why she WANTS to be your bridesmaid if she’s not close to you. Id never want to spend time and money on someone else’s wedding unless we were close. So weird. 

Post # 9
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546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I have my FI’s sister and his best friend’s wife in my bridal party…because FI asked me to invite them…and I didn’t want to argue with him..

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Nope, that would be a pretty stupid rule. You didn’t do anything wrong, she just sounds crazy. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Nope.  His best man is married and his wife is not a bm.   We aren’t friends and I wouldn’t even consider it.

Post # 12
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490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve never, ever heard of that.  All three of my husband’s groomsmen were married or in a relationship, and none of them were in my bridal party.  YOU choose your bridal party, no one else.

At least, that’s how it’s supposed to be.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

You’re right, she’s wrong. How strange. Married couples don’t automatically get to be in a wedding party together. I’ve never heard of that being a rule. 

Post # 14
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@SimplyEuphoric:  You don’t owe anybody a place iny our bridal party.  If she says anything else about it try to ignore her but if she gets persistent just respond that you have already put together your bridal party and that’s it.  How rude of her to say anything at all!

Post # 15
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3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@SashaUSARu:  I get his sister, not his friends wife. Seems a little much. But good for you for going along with it. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@SimplyEuphoric:  Are you kidding me? Really? Seriously? You aren’t even friends and she is upset that you wouldn’t make her a BM just because her DH is a GM? Never heard of it. Been in two weddings where FI was not in it. Been to many weddings where BM or GM SOs (whether married or not) were just regular guests. No. You are not rude for making her a BM. How awkward would it be to have someone you dislike be a part of all these intimate moments that you are supposed to share with your nearest and dearest (dress shopping, getting ready, etc.). Don’t think anything of it. So long as you have her invited to the rehearsal dinner you are golden. Maybe try not to talk wedding stuff in front of her (not saying that you are, just be aware since she seems to be sensitive)

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