Was I mean to say this?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wow. I think that is so wrong of your bridesmaids. Why would one plan a last minute trip? She couldn’t pick any other week?? And the one has friends in town? Big deal, I’m sure those friends will be around more than just that day. The only one I can sort of understand is the out of towner BM. And they can’t even make the bachelorette party either? That’s wrong considering they are flaking on the shower already.

I would be so disappointed if I were you. But DONT let them ruin your shower. The bridal shower is a part of the whole getting married thing. This is your day, don’t let them ruin that for you. And yes, your FSIL has already started planning. I would be considerate of that. Tell her you are sorry & that you were just a little bummed about your friends and enjoy your shower!

Post # 4
805 posts
Busy bee

@katkat123:  It’s a shame they’re not as excited as you’d like or would be for them. However, I would try not to get too upset about it, maybe the one who booked just got a really great deal? I would be more annoyed about the one who’s in town but can’t spare the couple of hours. Still, try and enjoy the fact that you have a great FSIL, and make it clear to her that you’re grateful for her planning everything for you, as what you said could have come off as a little ungracious. You’ll have a lovely time even if it’s small – you’ll have more of a chance to actually interact with your guests!

Post # 5
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@katkat123:  Yeah I think you can be a little sad they can’t make it but I wouldn’t hold it against them personally. I have almost always been a LDB (long distance bridesmaid) and rarely made it back for a shower. The brides never pushed it because they realize that flying for the wedding is expensive, as well as other obligations (dresses, hair done, presents, etc). In my opinion, the shower is optional for out of staters. I’ve always been one to make it to the bach party though 🙂

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