Was I rude?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Was I rude?
    Yes! (explain why/how below) : (16 votes)
    22 %
    No. : (58 votes)
    78 %
  • Post # 3
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    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Not rude.

    Post # 4
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    4216 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Uhh the only thing maybe boarderline rude was maybe “I know you’re having financial difficulty” and even then… not really. 

    She’s probably got bigger issues right now. I would let this one go. Weddings bring out the worst in some people. 

    Post # 5
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    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think from her perspective it came across as though you weren’t really being there for *her* during a difficult time in her life, and instead making it about you & the wedding.

    As a recent bride myself, I totally understand why being direct is something a necessary evil, but then again now that I am going to be in a friend’s wedding myself, I see it from the other side as well.

    Post # 7
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    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @gingerkitten:  it sounds like you touched a nerve.  she obviously has a lot going on personally and your wedding is the least of her concerns.

    Post # 9
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    730 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

    I wouldn’t say rude, but maybe a little direct? Even so, if I was really just super busy and stressed, and my friend who was getting married sent that to me, I’d be all “oh, shit! I’m sooooo sorrry, things have been crazy, yadayadayada….”  

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @gingerkitten:  Not rude…you just touched a nerve. something is obviously going wrong with her and I think she just felt that as her friend you werent really being considerate and you were only worried about whether or not she was coming to your wedding. 

    Post # 12
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    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @gingerkitten:  Yeah, that’s sort of why I hesitate to say it was completely rude, because you said that you had tried to contact her to hang and she had ignored all of your attempts. It sounds to me like she just has a lot going on and maybe she just grew out the friendship. By the sounds of that sign off, yeah, it appears this is the end of the line.

    Post # 13
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    1535 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I think it’s really rude that she hasn’t been in contact with you at all in the last couple months. not even a few texts. I would have probably been rude to her about it lol. I don’t think you were though

    Post # 15
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    394 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    not rude at all. her response was pretty childish.

    Post # 16
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    2114 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @gingerkitt you had tried so times to contact her and ask how she was and chat. So no, this was not rude. And that was rude of her to reply Like that actually. 

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