Post # 1
Last night DH and I revealed to his co-workers and the FB world that we are expecting our first child in August. We recieved an overwhelming amount of well wishes, congratulations…you know the expected things. What I wasn’t expecting was some ladies asking me if this pregnancy was planned.
This baby was planned (incredibly so) and I wasn’t offended by the question but rather surprised. Never would I have considered it up until last night an appropriate question to ask anyone, especially someone that isn’t family or a very close friend.
Am I just old fashioned? Is this really an appropriate question these days?
Post # 3
@Treejewel19: I think it’s incredibly rude. People seem to lose their minds about what is appropriate when it comes to talking to pregnant women. Why would they want to know? If it wasn’t planned then what are they going to do with that information exactly? My first thought is that they would use it as gossip. I’m bracing myself for people’s reactions when we announce in a few weeks so I’m wondering what your reaction to this question was?
Post # 4
I think its rude and most def inappropriate!
Post # 6
Who asks that kind of question!? That so rude. You’re not being old fashioned and it’s not appropriate . Ugh, why do people think that every intimate detail of everyone’s lives is open for discussion?
Post # 7
@Treejewel19: I’m with you! I was so surprised when not just one, but about 6 people, asked me “was it a surprise?” or “Congratulations! Sorry, I mean, should I say congratulations? Are you happy about this?” (seriously, someone said this) or “were you guys trying?”. Honestly?!? People think it’s appropriate to ask those things? I certainly would never dream of asking anything similar!
Post # 8
Yes it’s rude!! It’s like they’re asking about your sex life (and really, aren’t they?)…ugh. I’ve asked some of my best girlfriends that, but only people I’m comfortable talking about their sex life with anyway haha.
Glad you seemed to have taken it in stride, because I don’t know that people will ever become more tactful.
Congrats on sharing your news!
Post # 9
@Treejewel19: I think it is extremely rude! For some reason, people seem to think you can say anything to a pregnant woman!
Post # 10
@PatientBee: After getting over the intital shock I said, yes absolutely. We were very much trying. Considering that the people asking were not close friends but rather “friends” through DH and his job I am certain the information would have been used for various gossip. Nothing like work place gossip you know.
Post # 11
@Treejewel19: So inappropriate! They were way out of line. I might have called them out for rude behavior (which I don’t do often, but it was absolutely none of their business).
It wouldn’t bother me if it was super close family or friends, but if they were super close, they’d probably already know if it was planned or unplanned already.
Post # 12
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@Treejewel19: It’s incredibly rude to say the least but it’s honestly the first thought that pops into my mind when friends who are younger than 30 announce a pregnancy. But I would never have the audacity to actually ask.
Post # 13
Wow, so rude. I wouldn’t be afraid to state that, either.
Post # 14
I nearly went into shock the first time someone asked me that. I literally went “…What?” I was CONVINCED I had misheard them!
Post # 15
@Treejewel19: Very rude and also…just plain strange!
I’m glad you got a better, more appropriate response from others.
Post # 16
I could understand someone asking that question to a teenager maybe but in any other circumstances that is a very rude question to ask.