"Was it planned?" trivia

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
Member
1025 posts
Bumble bee

1. How frequently were you asked? I am currently 14 weeks pregnant and I get asked all.the.time. Probably 2-3 times per week. I hate it.

2. How old are you? 27

3. Were you married, and if so, how long? We have been married a little over a year now, living together for two, officially dating and monogymous for  over five.

4. Did you and SO have jobs? Did you have a house? We both have very good jobs, DH is a law officer and I work in the transportation industry.

5. Had you shared your plans with others about having kids or not having  kids? It was never a secret that we wanted kids. We shared with a select few people that we were TTC. Although, everyone expected it and were constantly asking which makes the whole situation more annoying “I asked you everytime I saw you since you’ve been married when are you having kids! Holy crap you’re pregnant?? Was it planned???” Ugh.

 

Post # 4
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1436 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

1. How frequently were you asked? I’m almost 19 weeks and have been asked a handful of times.

2. How old are you? 28, DH is 29.

3. Were you married, and if so, how long?  Yes, for three years, living together 4, been together almost 6.

4. Did you and SO have jobs? Did you have a house?  yes and yes

Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/was-it-planned-trivia#ixzz2kAKqXNsV

Post # 5
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1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

1. How frequently were you asked? I am 31 weeks tomorrow and have been asked this question maybe once or twice.

2. How old are you? 29, DH is 27.

3. Were you married, and if so, how long? When we announced to everyone, we had been married for a year. We had been together for nearly 9 years.

4. Did you and SO have jobs? Did you have a house? We both had/have jobs, however, his was a temporary position. Thankfully, he became full time in July, so we can put the baby under his insurance (which will be a lot less expensive than putting the baby under mine!). We were planning on moving into a house over the summer before we knew we were having a baby. We bought and moved into our house at the end of June!

5. Had you shared your plans with others about having kids or not having kids? I would say that our parents knew we would start trying around the 1 year mark. We didn’t tell people when we were TTC. In case it wouldn’t happen easily, we didn’t want extra attention brought to the fact that we were trying.

Post # 6
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

It’s definitely rude to ask, but I think some people ask before congratulating you because they want to make sure it’s a good thing.  Which I find odd if you’re married and in your mid to late 20s or older since it’s not like it’s a teen pregnancy or from a one night stand.

Post # 7
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2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

1. How frequently were you asked? 3 times I think

2. How old are you? 27 (26 at the time of first being pregnant)

3. Were you married, and if so, how long? Yes, just over a year when I got pregnant.

4. Did you and SO have jobs? Did you have a house? Yes and yes

5. Had you shared your plans with others about having kids or not having kids? A couple of close friends.

It’s definitely an odd question. I was first asked by my course director (military course I was on, gotta report stuff like being pregnant), a physicians assistant and a doctor!

Post # 8
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3077 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@beachbride1216:  I agree with this. But I also think that if someone is sharing the news, you can judge on their face if they’re excited. If they are, you don’t ask lol

I’ve asked around out of nosiness haha not gonna lie. But I’d never ask someone directly, it’s just rude.

Post # 9
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1449 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

1. How frequently were you asked? Every single time we told someone who wasn’t family Including my freaking doctor(whoses Practice partner prescribed clomid……)

2. How old are you? 27

3. Were you married, and if so, how long? 2y, been together for almost 7.

4. Did you and SO have jobs? Did you have a house? Yes DHs salary is enough for us both to live on. Currently house hunting.

5. Had you shared your plans with others about having kids or not having kids? Mm, just family.

Post # 10
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@guitargirl:  

 

1. How frequently were you asked? Twice so far – DH was asked by his sister and I was asked by my much older coworker 

 

2. How old are you? 27

 

3. Were you married, and if so, how long? Yes married 3 months when we conceived, was 18 weeks preg when asked by coworker so a good 6-7 months we had been married at that poinT! Baby is due a few weeks before out first anniversary.

4. Did you and SO have jobs? Did you have a house? Yes and yes

 

5. Had you shared your plans with others about having kids or not having kids? Nope.

 

 

 

Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/was-it-planned-trivia#ixzz2kBAPDGBw

 

Post # 11
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774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@guitargirl:  Right?! What kind of question is this? The next person who asks me is going to get “YEP! WE WERE HAVING UNPROTECTED INTERCOURSE FOR THE PURPOSE OF CONCEPTION!” So far my answer has just been “It was a happy surprise.”

1. How frequently were you asked? I’m almost 13 weeks pregnant and I have been asked this by almost every person we’ve told other than our families.

 

2. How old are you? I’m 23 and DH is 24

3. Were you married, and if so, how long? We’ve been married for 2 years.

4. Did you and SO have jobs? Did you have a house? We both have good jobs and we own our house.

5. Had you shared your plans with others about having kids or not having kids? Our parents and close friends knew that children were in the near future for us, but we hadn’t shared any TTC plans with anyone. 

Post # 12
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I haven’t announced my pregnancy yet but I’m at the tail end of first trimester so hoping to announce soon. I anticipate that question will come even though I’m married and in my 30’s but I’m curious about what your response to the question is. Part of me wants to say yes it was planned but I also kinda want a smart alec response too, to let them know that question is inappropriate. Any suggestions? What have you ladies said?

Post # 13
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416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

1. How frequently were you asked?  – a couple times when we first shared the news

2. How old are you?  – 29 (28 when we conceived)

3. Were you married, and if so, how long?  – we had been married two years, together for five

4. Did you and SO have jobs? Did you have a house?  – yes, good but busy jobs, own a house, have a dog

5. Had you shared your plans with others about having kids or not having kids?  – this is the clincher – we had talked about them abstractly but no one knew we were trying.  In my social/work group, most people talk about TTC, and so that’s why I think people asked, because they figured if we were trying I would’ve said something.  I’m not a very private person in general, so I think people were surprised that I was private about this, but it just seemed like such a different type of personal thing than most stuff I’m happy to share, so we didn’t tell anyone until we saw a heartbeat, and even then we didn’t tell most people until after the first trimester

 

Post # 14
Member
3360 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@swanks4tw:  +1000

I find this to be such a bizarre question!  I’m not PG yet, but if I get this question in the future, I have no problem making people uncomfortable 🙂  Maybe they’ll think twice before asking someone else.  I can see myself saying something like “Oooooh yeah, we were having lots and lots of bareback sex!  You know, gotta get as much sperm in there as possible!  And it worked!”

Post # 15
cherrypieBee
1059 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

1. How frequently were you asked? I’m 14 weeks and I’ve been asked maybe 5-10 times. I’ve lost track. A lot of people knew we were going to be trying this year.

2. How old are you? 31 and husband is 33

3. Were you married, and if so, how long? Yes. Married 5 years.

4. Did you and SO have jobs? Did you have a house? Yes. I run a wedding photography business and he is an oncological nurse practitioner. We own a house and we have just finished a kitchen remodel. (We’re financially sound)

5. Had you shared your plans with others about having kids or not having kids? Yes, frequently, and whenever asked. Most people have known for the last few years that we’ve been talking/thinking about TTC.

 

Post # 16
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

What has marriage really got to do with having children? I have children and im not married yet. These people who have to ask such questions are just shallow. My first child was a suprise second was planned I wouldnt have it any other way and love my children dearly. Your relationship status shouldnt matter to people you could be with someone ten years and not be married.

 

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