Post # 1
I went out for drinks with a girlfriend the other night. When we were done, she wanted to come back with me to my and SO’s place. I told her that was fine, but since SO had been at work all day we couldn’t be too loud or stay around too long. She wound up staying for over an hour, even as SO and I were getting ready for bed.
Before that, we were looking at my lingerie and I had her try on some of my bras just for fun. Since she’s straight (I think) it never ocurred to me that she’d see this as anything other than girls having fun. Anyway, I got into bed with SO (just sitting) and she sat on the edge of the bed talking to us for a really long time. She even made a joke about getting into bed and cuddling with us.
Then, as we were making it pretty clear we were going to bed, she asked if I had ever made out with a girl before (it came up naturally in conversation, but still). Then she mentioned she had done it many times. Then, as I walked her to the door when her cab arrived, she made a comment about my butt and said “Wow, it actually sticks out from the side” and turned to my SO and said “Do you realize how great your girlfriend’s ass is? Do you ever compliment her on this?”
She is a very open and goofy person so I didn’t even consider that she was trying to do something, but later I messaged her something casual/friendly on Facebook and it’s been a week and still haven’t heard back from her. Maybe she’s embarrassed? SO thinks she may have been trying to initiate a threesome but I think that’s really farfetched, because he’s not even her type, and she doesn’t seem to be bisexual other than making out with a few girls.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
YEOWWWWWWWWWW sounds like someone has a girl crush!! I would just let it slide. It’d be SUPER awkward to bring up.
Post # 4
@lealorali: Yeah, weird right? The more I think about it, she does seem to think I’m attractive but I always assumed she was just being nice!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t call it anything unless she DID get into bed with you two or ACTUALLY tried to make out with you.
Post # 6
Def sound like a girl crush!!
Post # 8
@anon00: Maybe she was just drunk and making silly comments as a result. Perhaps she admires your looks in a non-sexual way?
If I were in her position, I’d probably be embarassed. I don’t think she was trying to initiate anything though.
Post # 9
Whoa she does have a women crush on you!!
Post # 10
Whoaaah you had balls to bring it up on Facebook! Let us know if you hear back from her. Awkwardddd
Post # 11
Sounds just like silly girl talk. That’s how I talk to all my friends — I’m just being nice, and if I’m comfortable around them, why not! I’d be mortified if they took it as anything other than friendship.
Maybe she’s sitting at home thinking the same thing about YOU. (“She got me to try on her bras? Uhh…what if she was trying to say something? I’m glad I acted all girly back so she didn’t feel out of place!”). Just some food for thought…
Post # 12
Sounds like it to me! I actually had a friend do this exact thing in college. We were trying to go to bed and she wouldn’t leave, sitting on the bed, etc. Awkward! Maybe she just gets a little frisky after a few drinks. I wouldn’t think too much about it.
Post # 13
It does sounds like thats what she may have been interested in.. however, I wouldn’t look into it too much. She could have had a little too much to drink, and then her trying on the lingerie could have made her feel sexy, and obviously, she was attracted to you in that moment.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park
Mmmmmmaybe she was propositioning you? More likely she was drunk and horny and uninhibited. I guess if you’re not afraid of the answer if it’s yes, ask her the next time you guys are laughing over cocktails? I’d just be prepared to say that you’re realy flattered but not interested if that’s the case. (She’ll probably be moritifed anyhow. Just a word of warning if you do decide to ask.)
Post # 15
@winstonchurchill: I was thinking the same thing.
This could be totally normal girlfriends messing around or something more….it just depends on your relationship, OP.