Post # 1
I have a pretty demanding job. I work about 45 hours a week (which isnt a lot for some people I know, but I also travel for 2 hours a day and I am exhausted by the time I get home) and never manage to clear my desk so I am constantly swamped. I have not had a lunch break in ceilingcat knows when and when I get home still have to cook, clean, plan a wedding etc
MIL has been bugging and bugging and bugging for the invites. When I went there 2 weeks ago the whole family were there and I was quite literally swamped by them demanding to know when the invites would go out and complaining when I said I was busy and might not be for a few weeks. I am 3 months out from the wedding and whilst people will need to book accommodation, I did sent STD’s with info in them so IMHO I still had a few weeks grace.
Anywho, after all that I just wanted it to go away so I took to them during my non existant lunch break where as you can imagine I was under pressure, my emails were going bonkers, my phone was going bonkers, people kept coming to my desk for things etc so I was not in the correct frame of mind for attention to detail.
Turns out I not only spelt MIL’s name wrong, but I sent it to the house down the road. Also, no one told me that the name they give FGFIL is not his real name so his invite is incorrect as well! I also spelt my brothers GF’s surname wrong :(. I did ask FI to check them, but he is just as busy as me so he didnt pick up on it either.
I only realised my error when I went to fill in some legal documents and looked at FI’s birth certificate and by then it was too late. SIGH
Please let me know I am not the only one stuggling with balancing work and wedding planning. Cracks are starting to show and I dont know how I will cope with the next 3 months as its only going to get worse!
Post # 3
My invitations had mass amounts of names spelled wrong. We think one couple RSVPed no because their name was so off. When FI asked his mom about why there were so many miss-spelled names, she said that in her country people spell people’s names however they think it’s spelled and no one cares! AH!!
I feel your pain!
Post # 4
@Peony007: yay, I am not the only one! lol. If I was a lady of leisure I am sure everything would be perfect… but whilst I am working, I dont think that will happen. I should have paid someone to do the entire thing for me, my life would have been so much easier!
Post # 5
Yep I’ve had to juggle work and planning too. As a result I’m 2 months out and still have HEAPS to do. Our invites had a mistake as well, I was busy at work and didn’t pick it up. It’s only a very small error that only one guest has noticed, it was on the rsvp card and part of the special meal request section not the invite, thank God.
Do you have any family or bridal party members who can help you with the load. I’m sure people will be happy to help if they are aware that it’s needed.
Post # 6
Another Perth Bee! HI 🙂
There are people I can delegate to but I am finding it hard as our wedding is in Margaret River so a lot of my planning is being done via email. Invites were one thing I could have delegated to my mum as she has the time, but I just didnt think about it, I just wanted them done! I have ordered all of our little things and they are sitting in the spare room and I have a huge checklist made up for my mum and MOH to use once we get closer to the date.
I am also a wee bit of a control freak so I find it hard to let go lol.
Anywho, I am going to keep an eye out for your recap! Not often you find people from Perth on the same global forum as you!
Post # 7
MY NAME is spelled wrong! Where the blocked of rooms under “last name/last name” is written, FMIL spelled my last name wrong (she designed/printed/paid for them all)….I glanced over them how many times, my fiance did, too…..but it was always an in between things at work or what have you….I’m sure my family will notice, hopefully no one else does! It is a 2 n’s at the end of my name situation — most people drop one of them and spell it wrong anyway I guess!
Post # 8
@Bears-bub: First off, “ceilingcat knows when” made me smile, so thanks for that! I will be adding it to my bag of phrases!
Second, get thee a wedding planner pronto. It’s never too late in the game to bring in a relief pitcher, and it sounds like you need one. With my first wedding, I got so frazzled that I brought in someone the last week, and she was a lifesaver! I’ve done the 2-3 hr commute thing before, and it’s not pretty. I empathize, and totally understand why wedding planning is taking a backseat. Time to hand over the reigns, hun, so that you can breathe easier and tasks can get done while you’re chained to your desk.
Post # 9
I was so excited after I got engaged the first thing I did was pick a date and book the venue, then order the invitations. I asked my FI a dozen times about spelling, had my parents look it over, then ordered them. Fast forward to last month, I show 125 of these beautiful, professionally printed invitations to my FMIL…only to have her smile and tell me that I spelled her name wrong on ALL of them! (we used the traditional wording of “[my parents] along with [his mom] cordially invite you blah blah”). Anyways, I added an “e” to the end of her name where there is none. So now I have to mail these invites out to his WHOLE family, knowing that they’ll all get a good laugh out of it! Luckily my FMIL is a good sport and she laughed the whole thing off, but it bothered me. And BTW, guys are useless about these things…my FI actually argued with his mother that SHE was spelling her OWN name wrong!
Post # 10
Thanks guys 🙂 I feel a lot better about it now!
Post # 13
@kybride: I discovered this a few minutes after I posted only to be extremely embarrassed. Apparently, it’s not common in US English but is interchangeable with spelled? Thanks for the heads up.
Post # 14
It’s ok. Mistakes happen, especially when work tends to come before wedding planning. I accidently sent out a few invitations to our family early and had the wrong year!! Luckily I realized this error before sending out majority, but it was pretty funny looking at invites that were for 2011 instead of 2012. And I definately go off of the names people actually go by rather than their real names, it would be way too hard in our family, no one really goes by their real name. Don’t stress about it, it will all work out.