Post # 1
I read so many emotional posts from the waiting category. I at times feel so bad for some of the circumstances that these ladies are in, but I can honestly say, that I was never “waiting”. DH and I did move faster than most, but I was actually quite shocked by my proposal. We had of course discussed our future, but I had no idea that the now DH had purchased a ring or anything. I can’t be the only one who was totally shocked by their proposal, right?
Post # 3
I still have never had a proposal, but the wedding is next week. It was more of an on going joint discussion.
Post # 4
I wasn’t a “waiting” girl either. We had definitely talked about our future, and like you, we moved a little faster than most people (although, it had been 2 years since we started dating when he proposed). I knew that when he was ready he would propose, I didn’t ever want to rush anything because when it was time, it would happen. I didn’t know he had a ring, and I was a little shocked when he popped the question.
Post # 5
I only waited for 2 weeks 🙂 we picked out a ring together, and two weeks later he popped the question!
Post # 6
I also was never a lady in waiting. My husband and I got engaged two and a half months after meeting and were in line for a ride at Disneyland when he asked me to marry him. Frankly….I was hot, sweaty, cranky, and not in the mood to be proposed to, but I’d say it all worked out 🙂
Post # 7
I wasn’t waiting either. I mean we lived together, combined finances, etc., but we were pretty young, around 22, so it wasn’t something I had really thought too much about!
Post # 8
I can’t say that I was ever not “waiting”, but I never really saw it as that. My husband and I talked about it and a timeline of when we’d both like to be married. I just let him know that I also needed a year to plan. We had both agreed that we’d like to be engaged by the end of that summer and to be married the following year. So I knew it was coming…just didn’t know exactly when.
I had no idea that he had bought a ring or picked it up before we had gone on vacation, and that he was going to propose as soon as we had gotten back. That all was a total surprise. And I never really analyzed every little thing that he did to see if it was going to lead to a proposal. I knew he wanted to marry me and it was in the works, and that was good enough for me.
Post # 9
I wasn’t ever a “waiting” bee either. He was always very clear about our future and about when it would happen. We had been dating for 15 months when he proposed.
Post # 10
I never really considered myself “waiting” either. When he proposed, I’d been out of college for less than a year and had just gotten my first “real” job, so though we’d been together for 4 years, we were just starting our adult lives together where we worked the same schedule.
I feel like our families and friends were waiting for a proposal more than I was with how much they’d ask me about it!
Post # 11
I was only waiting after we designed my ring, but he was more the one in waiting. He talked about getting married and I just wasn’t ready at that time and then when I was, we had my ring made and I had to wait for it.
Post # 12
i dont know if i would consider myself in the waiting category – i knew it would come just not when. I assumed we would get engaged in 2010 – but i figured it would be more towards the holidays as his sister was getting married in august. he proposed in July so i was surprised. – had it not come by the holiday season i think i would have placed myself in the waiting category. but i found the bee after i was engaged.
Post # 13
I didn’t go through the whole “waiting” thing, either.
It upsets me sometimes to read the waiting boards because I get the impression that some (not all) of those women have the impression that waiting for years on end is the human condition and that there’s no such thing as a marriage-minded man.
Post # 14
Since we had like the shortest courtship ever (but not by polygamy standards-thanks sister wives), I was never waiting either.
Post # 15
Maybe it’s because I’m fairly young (23), but I wasn’t even aware that people categorized themselves as “waiting” until I joined the Bee! I mean, I knew that women always wanted a proposal, but I had never heard of giving your guy a timeline and all that. Not that I think it is a bad thing, I just never knew people did it! FI and I were together for about 4 1/2 years when he proposed and I wasn’t expecting it in the least. I had shown him pictures of the style of ring I liked, but we never seriously discussed getting engaged and I never pressured him. I guess I just figured it was coming at some point, so it never really bothered me.
Post # 16
I wasn’t waiting either. We met in July. Discussed marriage in November and he proposed in December. I knew he’d probably propose sometime soon but I wouldn’t say I was waiting for it. And when it did happen, I actually knew before he did when and where he was going to propose (well, I was 90% sure :))