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Was this inappropriate? (Charity related)

posted 1 year ago in Career
  • poll: Was that inappropriate?
    Yes, your boss shouldn't ask for $ (or at least be so persistant) : (23 votes)
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    Yes, but you should have given $ anyway : (0 votes)
    No, it's fine for a manager to ask employees for $ : (0 votes)
    Other, I'll explain : (1 votes)
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    It must be fundraiser/charity season because I have been completely inundated with donation requests recently. DH and I can't afford to give to everyone and prefer to donate our time instead, which we are both doing for a specified charity in a few weeks.

    One of the charity donation requests was actually an event hosted by my boss recently which I was invited to. I declined right away since the tickets were too expensive and we had plans that day anyway (it was on a Saturday). I thought my declination was enough, but I received several emails from my boss leading up to the event (sent to a group including all of his employees) asking us to donate $ even if we weren't attending.

    I thought the whole situation was a little pushy, but isn't it also inappropriate coming from a boss? I feel really strange now that I still havent' given anything, but honestly I'm kind of turned off by the whole thing and don't appreciate being strong-armed by my boss of all people.

    What are your thoughts? Comments appreciated!

     
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    plantains    July 17, 2011   Live in NY, wedding in CT

    I think he is being pushy, and actually a bit inappropriate. Goven the boss-employee relationship, I would have thought he would tread a bit more carefully so people don't feel that they are being intimidated/brow-beaten into making a donation.

     
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    mrstilly    May 15, 2010   Ithaca, NY

    On the one hand, it was a group email, so at least you weren't targeted individually. But it is a little rude and pushy for a boss to ask for money. In my opinion, an initial email and maybe a reminder email would be okay, as long as they weren't pushy.

     
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    Violachap    November 13, 2010   California, MD (Wedding in Norfolk, VA)

    Coming from a Federal employee perspective, it's very inappropriate to solicit donations at work. We have the Combined Federal Campaign, an annual drive to donate money to charities through the Government, but it's only at the end of the year, and it's by interest only (i.e. no pushy emails making us feel guilty). Do you have someone in HR that you can contact about this?

     
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    mishelleez    November 5, 2010   DW- Bahamas

    IMO Anytime you are asked more then once to donate to ANYTHING its rude and inappropriate.

     
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    He was inthe wrong.  I would just not say anything.  And if for some reason he approaches you specifically about it, I would just honestly say, you can't afford it.  If it's a charity that might need the donation of time, perhaps you can do that.

     
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    teaadntoast    04/23/2010   New York, NY

    Asking once is fine, but making multiple requests is inappropriate - especially since it's a superior speaking to his reports.

     
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    liltwinstar    October 9, 2010   Northern CA

    Yes, definately go to HR and see what they can do. That's totally inappropriate.

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    Wow, okay good to know that I was thinking on the right track here. I'm honestly not sure what I'm going to do as far as HR is concerned. There's one other issue about this particular boss that I wanted to bring up with either his boss or HR in regards to him putting 'peer pressure' on us all the time to stay out late drinking. Ugh, I hate that so much!

     

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