Post # 1
I went dress shopping for the first time and it was amazing! I loved all the gorgeous gowns and it’s making everything seem so real! So my budget is around 1K, but I found a dress that blew me away- Essence of Australia D1702 (https://www.essensedesigns.com/essense-of-australia/wedding-dresses/d1702/). I loved the soft color and lace top and it felt like a dream! It’s also $600 over budget! I know this was only the first time dress shopping and I’ll probably find other dresses, but this one was just perfect. So now I’m curious- did you go over budget for your dress? And if so, was it worth it or do you regret spending that much? I talked to FI about the cost of the dress and he told me to go for it since I only get to wear an amazing dress once, but on the flipside I feel like it’s a lot of money to only wear once! I would appreciate your experience and advice on this! 🙂
Post # 2
missimagination : I set a budget for myself of 1000 including alterations. My mother didn’t think it was possible. She tried to convince me to by a Stella York $1300 dress. I found an originally $1800 dress 60% off. Then paid 200 for alterations. Kept it under $1000 and I couldn’t be happier I stayed on budget.
Post # 3
My dress was within budget, but I didn’t realise how much alterations would be and that made it go over. Sometimes I’m shocked at spending so much on one dress, but on the other hand in a year that extra $600 will be absorbed and forgotten (I mean, assuming you’re not actually living near the poverty line). Will you need any alterations? If you won’t and your FI is happy and no cheaper dress has come close then I think go for it (but do not give in to any dress regret!). If you’re going to have to spend another few hundred on alterations you’d be up at double your original budget which might require another discussion.
Also check if you can find it on any secondhand sites. Or do you have anything in the budget you could reallocate, like if shoes and accessories are in the budget you could wear stuff you already own and put it toward the dress instead, or something like that?
Post # 4
missimagination : hey! That’s my dress too! It ended up being only $100 over my budget (the store gave a first time in discount that got it close to my budget). But the moment it was on me I knew I had to have it.
Isn’t it a wonderful feeling dress?!
To reel you in a bit, this dress will need altering. The bust will need to be made perfect. The hem will need to be taken up, unless you’re tall and you’ll need a bustle. That will add a lot of cost.
Post # 5
i think i went about $200 over budget for my dress. But i had nightmare alterations, and i probably spent $300-$400 total fixing that problem, but i also paid for my own alterations, my parents only paid for the dress. my dress was a little over $1000.
in the end it was worth it though, i still love my dress today. ive tried it on at least once since getting married last year.
Post # 6
The dress I ended up buying was more than double my budget. I actually bought another dress online (but returned it) and went to 2 more shops trying to find something I liked as much as that dress and I just couldn’t.
I don’t regret breaking the budget because I love my dress and I felt great wearing it on my wedding day, but if I’d known the dress was over budget when the consultant pulled it, I would have asked her to put it back without trying it on, and I would have probably found an equally great dress in my budget. Once I tried it on, though, I had to have it.
Post # 7
I went around $500 above budget after alteration. My wedding is not here yet but seeing that I dont have any dress regrets and just generally cant wait to wear it, i think it is worth it 🙂
Post # 8
I HATED everything I tried on for 1K (I’m Canadian so that’s like 700) . So I tried on whatever I wanted way over budget. I ended up finding my dream dress ($5000 original price) on Craigslist for 800. I offered them $600 cash and took it home!
Post # 9
I couldn’t find any lace & tulle ball gown I liked in my price range (~$1k) and so I went custom and had the best experience! I chose my own beaded lace, my own sparkle tulle, my sparkly belt, and the exact design for all aspects of the dress (sweetheart with v-neck back).
My dress and 2 veils (including a cathedral length veil with beaded lace that matches my dress & one short plain tulle veil) cost $1400. No money on alterations since the dress was made specifically for me!
If I had bought a dress that quality in stores it would have easily been more than double the price so even though I went over I feel good.
Post # 10
I would say you’ve set a budget for a reason.
Are alterations included in your budget? If they are then you’re looking at doubling your budget. Stretching it a bit I can understand but not doubling it for something you’ll wear for one day.
eta this was right at the start of looking so you don’t know what else you’ll find. Give it time first. And if you go over budget on this, where will you scrimp?
Post # 11
I went over budget by $100. That’s not including alterations yet though so I think I’ll probably end up $500 over budget.
I do really love my dress though so that’s reason enough to break the budget for me!
Post # 12
I didn’t really have a budget but I got my dress as a sample from a wedding store for $650 + $200 alternations and I kinda regret it. I think I should have perhaps spent more and got something that fitted me better.
I thought it was a great bargain but because it was a sample it turned out too small – In retrospect I would have paid more money for a different dress.
Post # 13
Another vote here for trying preloved sites to get your dream gown/designer at a bargain. Worth a search about if you have the time.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2017 - Sauk Valley Resort
FMIL paid for my dres, and originally set a $1,000 budget. But, as we were looking, she pulled a few dresses that were over budget and I ended up liking them, so she pushed the budget to $1,300. I found my dress for just under $1,200 and because I was a returning customer (I bought my prom dress at the same store), they gave me a $150 accessory credit to use once my dress is in. I offered to give FMIL the $200, but she said FSIL paid $1,000 for her dress 7 years ago, so she assumed we would go over budget anyways. I’ll still need some major alterations (hem, bustle, waist taken in, lace on illusion back moved slightly) but I’m paying for those. I feel bad spending so much on a dress I’ll only wear once, but I’m absolutely in love with it, and I’ve also never seen anyone with the same one, so going over was worth it to me.
Post # 15
Nope. Mine ended up being well below budget. I did not see the point of paying a ton of money for a dress I would wear onces, for 12 hours (on the outside). You have to decide your priorities, but like others said, alterations on gowns can add up quite a bit. So, you may end up very much over your budget if you choose the more expensive gown.