Post # 1
FI is not too interested in engagement pics. Price is not really the issue, as he’s usually willing to spend money on something worthwhile. He just doesn’t see the point of them, at all. I was able to explain why I wanted a really good wedding photographer (once-in-a-lifetime day, we’ll be spending money on all the details and should document them, having nice portraits with all our family and friends). However, none of these reasons apply to an engagement shoot.
When he asks why I want them so much, all I can say is that I want some beautiful photos of me and him at this point in our lives and I’ve seen a lot of great e-shoots online. He points out that we already take a lot of photos when we travel, go out, etc, and that I’ve used these (non-pro) photos for STDs and the guestbook, making an engagement shoot unnecessary.
How did your FI feel about e-pics? Any ideas on what can I say to him to get him more excited about them?
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Post # 3
My FI had fun with it, but he didn’t smile like he normally does so I was kinda bummed with half of the pictures. But at least we got SOME good pictures of us!
Post # 4
My FI wasn’t very into them, but he went along with them because we used a friend who was inexpensive ($150). He doesn’t really like having his picture taken, but he was really glad we did it because everyone is still raving about them! He still talks about how glad he is that we did them, so if my FI can come around, hopefully so can yours! Would using an amateur photographer make him happier? I know you said it isn’t about the cost, but if its the price of a dinner out and just takes a couple hours, what’s the harm? Especially if it is so important to you.
I would say to tell him you were going to use them for X, Y, Z (another tactic of mine – we used them for STDs) but I know you said you already used non-pro pics for these things. Maybe explain you’d like a really good quality picture of the two of you in a casual, natural setting to put in your home or give to your parents? Even really nice non-pro pics can’t measure up to a great professional camera. Our e-shoot was very laidback for the most part, so maybe tell him this is an opportunity to get natural looking pictures that aren’t rushed, when on the wedding day you will likely be on a tight timetable.
Post # 5
My FI was all for it but only because we were going to use them for our STDs…that’s not much help for you. We did find that the e-pics really taught us what worked and what didn’t when we were in front of the camera. Perhaps you can tell him you can use the session as a learning tool?
Post # 6
Mine isn’t too keen on getting them. We get a free shoot with the wedding package we picked. He said he “doesn’t know what to wear” – good excuse! But once we sat down with the photographer, I THINK she might have him convinced to do it. She said it gives her and us a chnace to get to know each other. It also gives you a chance to see what poses are best for you guys. Sometimes people do awkward things in pictures that you don’t notice until afterwards (like holding your hand a certain way).
Post # 7
It was really helpful for us to get used to having a photographer in our faces. Especially since we aren’t really camera toting people and don’t take pictures of ourselves much. My husband didn’t seem to hate it too much and he enjoyed the kissing!
Post # 8
I was in your exact same boat. The day of the e-shoot he was giving the photographer direction as to where he wanted to take pictures, poses, etc. I thought it was funny. He ended up having a really good time.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor
Mr.D hated it the entire time! But he was sweet enough to take them for me 🙂