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Mr Peng wasn't really into it and I would ahve been surprised if he was. He was very into planning the honeymoon and worked out many of the logistics, like organizing his family and friends. I really appreciated that. But as far as the fun planny planning kind of stuff, he left me to my own crazy ideas. He only spoke up when he thought something was potentially totally crazy or had the potential to be a total headache, and he was DEFINITELY right on all counts! To me, it was the perfect amount of involvement. And he was really great to my crazy foreign family, which was the best part of his involvement. He makes my life easy!
My FI has actually contributed more to the wedding planning process than I have! He found the church, the reception site, the caterer, the florist, designed the STDs...etc... Other than my dress, I don't know I really contributed! ahahha! I love how our planning process is a collaborative effort (he designs the STDs, I pick the paper I want them printed on ahha). I'm one happy&very.very.lucky bride. :)
My hubs was actually pretty awesome! He helped keeps things nice and organized, dealt with many of the vendors, and just so many other little things. I literally could not have done it without him!
My fiance 'doesnt care' about alot of the wedding stuff- he'd be just as happy to get married in his old board shorts and a singlet :( The honeymoon interests him a bit more though 
. Im probably pretty happy to not have him too involved, and he has no hesitations about ringing vendors (which I hate) so thats helpful! He really just can't see the point in some things though.
MrJRS is very helpful with our planning. He keeps a wedding finances spreadsheet that he updates as we pay off vendors and other expenses, then he emails it to me so I can update it on my computer. He hasn't been involved in looking for vendors, accessories, etc. Mainly because he works a lot, but everytime I find something I run it by him and he gives me his honest opinion. More often than not, he has different ideas and we have to compromise. But it's okay, it shows me that he actually DOES care and isn't trying to brush me off! I think he has just the perfect amount of "involvement." Anymore would make me feel like we're two brides! lol!
Finally a place where I can admit that my guy did almost nothing! He wrote his vows, asked his groomsmen, and coordinated for his "adopted" American families to come up, but other than that I made absolutely every decision by myself. I even planned the honeymoon!
Even though brides like me are sometimes scoffed at ("It's not just your wedding you know!" they tell me), but if he isn't interested, why should I force him to be?
My mister was GREAT!! He would call places, schedule things, and even took some of the tasks on himself. He would get disappointed if I made certain decisions without him. He was really sweet and said he wanted to take some stress away from me and make it the best day possible!!
I have to say my fiance has been amazing. He doesn't understand some things and thinks I am ridiculous, but has been right by my side through most of it.
And he took COMPLETE control of music which was a big task since we needed ceremony music + cocktail hour + band + dj + sound system! Andhe is in charge of the ceremony details, since it is his church! He has become such a good little planner!
When we started planning the wedding (1.5 years before the big day) Mr. F wasnt very helpful. Once the 1 year mark hit, it wanted to get involved... hence the reason why we changed our wedding theme.
I was happy he was interested in the little things like the centerpieces... he wanted a beautiful wedding just as much as I did. Hurray!!! I was so surprised! But extremely happy
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Um... Mr. T is generally not a planner, so I did most of he work. I still delegated smaller wedding items for him to do, like dj, and the church ceremony (since we were doing Catholic for his side of the family). While I did most of the scouting for the vendors, we mostly decided on them together. He also planned the honeymoon.
Since I usually do the planning, planning the honeymoon stressed him out a little. He was so worried I wasn't going to have fun! Silly, Mr Toucan! ;)
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mr.beesknees was awesome.
he came through more at the end and handled so much. Caterer/Liquor was his dept. and he also did great coordinated a lot of the small more masculine details.
finding handrolled cigars, making several ice cream cone trays (we did passed ice cream cones) etc.
My husband was SOOO helpful during the process it was hilarious. At first I was like, "what? are you serious?" but then I embraced it. He was so involved that he even wanted to have a say in the bridesmaid dresses. He came to the bridal shop and one of my bridesmaid was kind enough to model the two dresses that we were trying to decided between. He critiqued the colors, styles, materials, everything. Again, it was hilarious!
My husband tried.... he really did, he just wasn't the best at it. I ended up giving him very specific tasks to complete (ie, call the reception site and see how many bartenders we'll have, etc...). Once I started doing that he was more helpful. After the fact he told me he was just too overwhelmed to know where to start. It was actually really funny to see how concerned he got over little details once I started making him in charge of things.
My FI has been pretty involved in the planning process! I'm so glad that he's there to help me and give his opinion. He brings up a good point that it is OUR wedding... not mine when i tend to get carried away.
At the time it sure felt like it was all on my shoulders but looking back, I realize Mr Breezy wanted me to be happy most of all, so that's why he let me make the decisions like what island to go to, what resort, what to wear... the list goes on and on (how else would our groomsmen have worn purple?? ha ha). Once we got to the resort though, his event planning side came into play and he took charge, getting us room upgrades, organizing people and even giving our wedding coordinator the lambasting she earned. It was sexy to see him in action.
Mine is far more creative than me so I'm letting him be in charge of doing invitation designs, ceremoy stuff, etc.
My guy is so far very supportive and is taking a huge initiative on our engagi-moon planning and has already been voicing his thoughts on our wedding plans this year (we're going to be August btw) and the location and theme.
He is a planner by nature (can't help it, his job makes him that way :) ) and makes businesses run more smoothly so he's all about seamless planning. I'm glad he is. I think it's kinda cute.
My mister pretty much left everything to me. We discussed the $ issues and such- but the actual doing and deciding was left to me.
It was a little frustrating at times, but I just tried to remember that it wasn't that he didn't care at all- he just didn't have strong opinions and wanted me to have what I wanted.
Mr. Latte has (surprisingly) been really involved in the whole process! I delegated a couple of tasks to him that I knew he wouldn't mind doing...like finding a DJ and researching pots&pans, knives, and anything that's "electronic" and he hasn't missed a "deadline" yet! 
Mr. LL has been unbelievably excited about the honeymoon, and helpful with the guest list and details of his guests.
Other than that, i run things by him via 3 emails a day and I know it's important if he replies back (which is rare!) He got super excited about doing comic book character escort cards, but for the most part he is letting me take the reins.
However, I know he will be appreciative of a lot of the details when the big day comes, it's just hard to do things together when we're 2000 miles apart!
I'm reviving and old thread...
Anyways, YES. Mr. P. took the lead on wedding planning. I was the contact person for the photographer, but he found and interacted with all the other vendors. We did, however, plan the budget and honeymoon together.
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The Hubs was actually pretty helpful with wedding plans. I found that although he didn't always know what needed to be done, I could delegate jobs to him and he'd take care of them. He booked the honeymoon completely and took care of reserving/maintaining the guest hotel blocks, and creating the DIY invitations/response postcards/maps. He also wrote his half of the thank-you notes, which was awesome!
We are just getting started, but he is really into it. In fact, he is disappointed that his work/school schedule may hinder his ability to help out when it comes down to the wire.
My husband was amazing! I tried to be honest and upfront about my expectations of him...like when I show you two different options for flowers, please let me know your thoughts instead of just saying, " whatever you want." We also made to-do lists and he signed up for tasks first so that he felt like he took on what he wanted to and saw that task through. He shared his progress along the way and I felt very much supported and loved through the process. While there were nights he requested a wedding free zone or night, I honored his plea and just remembered how blessed I am to have such a great man in my life! :)
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I tried to do my best to help give input and make decisions. But overall, I can't say that I was tremendously helpful. :-(
How about you... was your mister super into wedding planning? If not.. how did you deal with his lack of enthusiasm?