(Closed) Wasn’t expecting this from him….

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

yucky, that’s a pretty butthole thing to say!! Sorry 🙁 did he and his wife take forever to get engaged?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Why is it men always seem to say the absolute wrong thing at the most wrong time. I completely see why it would be a big deal to you – especially since he is the best man. Are you comfortable telling him that this hurt you? My husband’s family always says mental things and I just cuddle up with him later and he always makes me feel better. How did your FI respond? Oh I just read it is his little brother so that can be difficult. I hope you can just forget about the comment and just enjoy your engagement – good thing you arent marrying him eh lol. Why does it matter it has only been 7 months anyway – is there a timeline on love? silly boys

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh that just sucks!!!! Well you have us Bees to keep you company – that is what we are all here for!!!! At least he realizes he said something hurtful. I am sure once your FI gets home you will feel better. I hope that we can all keep you company until then. No one should make an encore bride or a short engagement bride feel as though their wedding is less than anyone else’s!

Here is some background on me: I was really worried about my wedding last spring because technically my husabnd and I were married in 2008 at a crappy civil ceremony (not because it was a civil ceremony – thats another story on its own that is for sure). We were already engaged but I got pregnant and the military wouldnt give us a house unless we were married. I was nervous that my whole family would judge us having the wedding two years later (but I really wanted that special wedding in the Catholic church surrounded by my family). I was so hurt when I found out that my husband’s Grandfather said that he wasn’t going to go. He thought it was stupid we were having a second ceremony and didnt see the point. Luckily my husband knows how to make me feel better. I guess people just dont think before they say stuff.

I hope the night goes fast for you- we will keep you busy on the Bee – I will cross my fingers your FI gets off work early!!!

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i’m sorry he said that. maybe he’s being protective because he knows your first marriage ended in divorce though? some people can be funny about that.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My sister got engaged 2 weeks ago to a guy she’s been dating for five months if that makes you feel any better 🙂 Do they know everything about each other? Definitley not (I know she hasn’t shown him her crazy yet) but they will get to know each other. Like everything else, it takes time. They know they want to be married and that’s what matters (God help him Wink)

I know it’s hurtful, but I think what’s really bothering you is the truth behind the statement. We all have good, bad, and ugly qualities- sometimes it takes a little while for the bad and ugly to come out in a relationship. You two know you want to be together and work through anything-  and that’s what is important.

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