Post # 1
Okay ladies.. I just got married on August 3rd to the love of my life!!! I live in San Diego but decided to have my wedding in Illinois because we are both from there, and most of our family resides there. My wedding day was ideal. Beautiful ceremony and reception, lots of dancing and best of all surrounded by family and friends. After all the planning I was happy that the day that I planned for for a year was finally over… It wasn’t til about 2 days later that I found out something was wrong. I went over to my aunties house to return a few things that I had borrowed from her when she asked me if I had liked the card that she had given me. I told her I didn’t receive a card from her. She said she had given me a card and had placed $50 in it. I told her when I got back to where I was staying I would check again because I have a really bad memory and maybe I just forgot that I had read her card. I went and checked and I didnt have a card from her. I called her and told her. She then called my other auntie which told me she had given me a card with money in it also which I ddn’t receive.Long story short I had over 200 guest and received 11 cards. I posted something on FB about the incident and we had SEVERAL people tell me they gave us cards which we didn’t get. It saddens me and hurts me to my soul that someone would do this to us on our wedding day. This isn’t something that I would have EVER imagined would happen. AFter all, we are the type of family that will give the shirt off our back if someone needed it. But to steal from us on such a special day is just crazy… So brides to be, please place your box where it can be watched or place a lock on it. You honestly never know what can happen. I fell victim to such a hateful crime and I hope noone has to feel the pain and betrayal that we felt.
Post # 3
Oh my goodness…I’m so sorry this happened to you 🙁 Sometimes people can be just awful.
Post # 4
@Devyah924: That’s terrible 🙁 I am so sorry this happened to you.
Post # 5
That is absolutely horrible. It’s sad that someone would even think to something like that to someone, especially on their wedding day.
Post # 6
Yeah. It hurt my feelings… C’mon now… I could expect that from an enemy but from family. I honestly don’t think it was one of my friends. Just hurts that when I look back 20 years from now that the first thing I will remember is that someone stole from us on our special day. Just sad and deceitful.
Post # 7
Oh that is evil… My cousin had that happen at their wedding. The boyfriend of one of their bridesmaides offered to take all oft the gifts to the car and drove off with them, never to be seen again. I am using the perfect card box, which has a lock on it. Also I am appointing my mother and father to look after it, so I doubut there will be any problems..
So sorry that happened to you.. that’s awful!!!!
Post # 8
What that is horrible ! Who would do such a thing
Post # 9
How horrible! I’m so sorry that happened to you. Makes me rethink the whole birdcage cardbox idea…
Post # 10
@Devyah924 Where in SD was this…
Post # 11
@Devyah924: sorry to hear that 🙁 but sometimes its not family or friends sometimes its staff at the venue or wedding crasher lurkers who dress up and go to venues like this because they know theres gifts and money and a lot of the time no one is really paying attention!!
For ours I actually had some “non-trustworthy” family invited and I asked my venue coordinator what their procedure was and luckily it was great. I had someone sitting with the box along side the signing table so it was watched during the cocktail hour. Once everyone was being ushered into their seats I brought the box to the front desk where they issued a saftey deposit box and everything was counted and signed for, and my MOH handed over her ID (cause I dint have one on me) and she was the only person who could sign it out…… not even ME or FI could get it lol….
so ya…. we had someone else bring our gifts up to our room, and then we placed the empty cardbox back out in case anyone forgot to put it in during cocktail hour/came late. I would advise all brides to look into some kind of security!!
Our venue had another wedding going on at the same time, and I have to say we had a few things completely stolen at our late night snack!! we had a massive mound of Parmeasan chees eworth $350 and some asshole said he was the brides father and was “taking it home”…. my father was staying with us (from OOT) …and I assure you he did NOT take it!!
There was people lurking from other weddings I can tell ya… I saw a few peek their heads in!
Post # 12
Wow I am so sorry you have to go through this.
Our gift table is not going to be far from our sweetheart table, and it will be in plain view for us as well as my father & uncle that will be at a table next to us. It’s also not near an exit. Sadly, I have sticky fingers in my family and I had to think about this in fear of what you just went through.
I made our card box, and when guests drop cards into it, they drop to the bottom tier. So either someone removing the top 2 tiers, or walking away with the whole box, someone WILL notice.
Post # 13
@Devyah924: Maybe it wasnt your family or friends… maybe it was staff? Like caterers, servers, event coordinators, janitors at the end of the night, etc.
Post # 14
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
Wow, this is scary. So sorry that happened to you and your husband. But thanks for the notice…I had planned to have our card & gift table placed at the entrance of the venue. However, I think I will either place it near the head table or have an attendant that I trust to look over it for me and then take it away during the middle of the reception.
Post # 15
This happened to my sister, so when I made my card box I made I so you couldn’t get into it a all at the reception! I put my brother in charge of it and he put it away just before the reception started, anybody who wanted to give after that I pointed to him. I opened (hammered into) my card box 2 days after the wedding and all of my guests were accounted for, except 3 who all called & said they forgot to bring a card and we will receive them later.