Post # 1
Miss Coffee has some suggestions regarding my personal appearance on our wedding day. To be honest, the word ‘suggestion’ should be changed to ‘plans’!
For example, Miss Coffee fully expects me to get waxed prior to our wedding. I know that in the past few years, hair has begun welcoming itself in awkward parts of my body. Now that I’m into my 30’s; my back it seems… resembles a forest straight from Lord of the Rings! My gut tells me that if I go through with a wax, then Miss Coffee may tell the place to take care of *cough* other areas.
The problem that I have is, well… technically speaking I already agreed to get a wax. However, this was prior to the engagement and to be completely honest… I think Miss Coffee got me drunk that night on purpose. I know this, because it’s the same night I agreed to dress up like Mickey Mouse for Halloween!
I just keep thinking about the scene from the 40 Year Old Virgin… “OHHHH KELLY CLARKSTON!! Is this request normal, did you or will you ask your FI to do the same thing? I’m wondering what expectations, ideas, suggestions, plans, or *dare I say it*… demands you’ve made to your partner.
More so… if your FI/HU did get waxed, what was the outcome… worth it/not worth it?
Post # 3
Does my husband have more hair in some places than I like? Sure. Do I ask him to do anything about it? Nope. And I never will.
I figure it’s his body and he should be able to do with it as he wants. I would hate for him to start asking me to make changes to my body that I don’t want to make.
Post # 4
I think the only thing I ask FH about his body hair is to not shave his chest. He use to shave it when we first started dating and I just kinda thought it was weird. Men are supposed to be hairy!
Post # 5
Haha, oh dear. You are in for a treat :P. FI and I have talked about how short his hair is going to be and how long his beard will be, but all I asked was that he be somewhat clean-shaven. His hair will be fairly short and he might have a little bit of a beard.
Post # 6
I would never ask him to wax anything, LOL. I don’t think he would even if I got him drunk, drugged, and hypnotized. The only thing I trim, the eyebrows. They can get kind of unruley.
Post # 7
Oh you poor soul! I’m one of those bride’s with a hubbie-to-be who is literally a human sweater! A couple of years ago he was coaxed into getting his back and chest waxed….let’s just say he made it through the back and then promptly told the girls at the salon to stick it where the sun don’t shine!! Haha.
He’s so hairy that we are at odds trying to make a plan for our wedding, which is in Mexico. I’m fine with my man rocking the hair because I love my testosterone ridden Hugh Jackman of a guy, but others have err differing opinions…
If you aren’t too hairy I think it will be okay to try it. You have to try it at least once!! If it’s too painful to bear it again then be honest with miss coffee and tell her. She’ll probably understand…then again us women go to tremendous lengths for the sake of beauty! One thing we do now is just trim my man up. We use his clippers that we use on his head but just shorter! lol.
Post # 8
Nah. I would never ask him to wax.
Post # 9
Oh gosh… I would never impose a “wax rule” on my man! I may have a discussion with him about trimming/shaving things, but it’s HIS body after all, and I would only go as far as discussing it. Just like I would respect his request to discuss MY hair situation, but I wouldn’t be okay with him TELLING me what to do with my body. But every relationship is different, and I’m not saying what you and Miss Coffee have is wrong or anything (in case I came across like that with the whole “wax rule”). I’m just giving my personal opinion. 🙂
Post # 10
I just read this to my FI. His response “whose going to see my back at the wedding?”. HAHA – he has a point though.
He’s hairy, but not a sweater. More like 70s porn star chest hair. He’s back is starting to get hairy and he just agreed that at some point he would wax his shoulders and part of his back because he doesn’t like the hair their either and plucks them out, but it is starting to get to be to much for that.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception
My first thought was the same as flutterbi’s FI! You’ll have a shirt on the entire time, why would you need to wax your back for the wedding?
Post # 12
I could totally understanding her asking you to wax your eye brows or shave for the wedding.. I don’t get the waxing the back thing. My FI is a very hairy Italian man and I don’t think I would except him to do this..
Post # 13
To answer your questions..
No, I don’t think this request is normal.
No, I’ve never made demands for him to change his appearance, and I doubt I ever will.
Post # 14
If my FI’s hair was comming up above his collar, I would ask him to wax it or make sure he shaved it the morning of the wedding. Other than that, I wouldn’t ask him to wax what we couldn’t see in pictures.
Post # 15
My SO is quite a hairy man, I love his chest hair, and he has a significant amount of hair on his back, he’s into his 30’s too. I help him manscape his back with a clipper if he asks me to when I buzz his hair. I don’t care one way or another about his body hair, it’s part of being a dude, but if it makes him feel better about being on the beach or not wearing a shirt then I’ll help him out.
I find it odd how obsessed we are as a culture about being hairless, it’s kind of bizarre.
Post # 16
Why not just shave your neck where it shows? Waxing is…painful (!!!) and can make your skin break out with nasty irritation (Harry from Sex and the City anyone?). See if there’s a compromise that makes both of you happy. I would never wax, too afraid – so i’d never expect that of my husband!