Post # 1
I told myself that when I get married I would get a bikini wax…. When I mentioned the idea to my sister she shuddered and proceeded to tell me that it would be a horrible choice, so now I’m unsure.
I’ve always shaved as I grew up in a farily modest home that never saught out any sort of beauty treatment (never had a pedi or anything… rarely get my hair cut) but danced ballet and leotards are beasts. I’m sick of the itching and the stubble and the constant shaving.
All I know about our honeymoon is that it will be someplace tropical, so would much rather not have to worry about the state of things down there while parading around in a suit all day. It will be our first time during our honeymoon, and I want it to be as comfortable as it can be, but I also want it to be natural and not weird for him if I did get a waxing…how much is too much?
I’ve done a lot of research recently on waxing vs brazillian, but I’m still unsure… any thoughts or helpful suggestions? If I am going to, I was thinking I might need to start soon as we’re getting married this fall and I would rather have practice with the waxing in plenty of time before the wedding.
Post # 3
@Jewelofthewest: I would ask your FI what he is expecting down there, and if he has a preference. It is possible that you will have a bad reaction to the wax, so its good that you plan on starting a couple months before the wedding. I’m not really an expert though, because I’ve only had one brazillian. ETA: I plan on continuing with them, it just hasn’t been enough time since the first one.
Post # 4
Honestly try it out. Maybe try a bikini wax first before a brazilian just so you know waht waxing feels like. I was always scared of doing it and then I finally got up the nerve a few years ago and went all out and got a brazilian done. I’m not going to lie and say it didnt hurt cause it did and I was swollen for a day or so after but your body gets used to the pain tolerance after awhile. I get it done every month now and I barely even feel it now. My hair grows so much thinner now and slower and it was the best decision I made for hair removal because before I would have to shave almost everyday!!
Post # 5
are you planning on doing the wazing yourslef? If you are, I would first go to a professional; I;ve heard waaay too many stories of women DIY-ing it the first time and ending up in a lot more pain and trouble than they expected. When I first started I was surprised how much it didn’t hurt. With that being said, I did take a few Advil before and scheduled it for a time when I wasn’t PMS-ing. I would say do a wax no matter what; bikini or Brazilian, its up to you. I just know the last thing I would want to worry about is whether or not I looked “fuzzy” in my bikini.
Post # 6
It’s so funny that you would post this today, since I just had my first bikini wax today. As a PP has already said, DEFINITELY try a bikini wax first, like I did. I have a low threshold for pain, and I know for myself, more than that would have been unbearable. Mind you, I also got my eyebrows and underarms done first, so my pain threshold was rapidly diminishing, but ouch! I would not have been able to stand a brazilian. Also, as another PP said, take advil before – it really helps with the pain!
Post # 7
I have actually been considering the same thing, and when brought up to friends…they all gave me that same shuddering reaction! haha
I think I will do it anways,but I was told I would have to grow it out for a month first…um wtf…is that true? Can somebody clarify this? If so I will stick with shaving…
Post # 8
I had my first brazilian the week before my wedding. My skin didn’t react so well to it & I would have preferred the results that I normally get from shaving. I wish I had known the advil trick.
Post # 9
@Cady you need to grow it out a bit so that the wax can catch the hair well to get a nice clean wax. If the hairs are too short then the wax wont be able to pick them up and it wont be a good job. You dont have to be a bush woman or anything but it has to be a bit longer than stubble lol
Post # 10
well I just started waxing it all off because I don’t want to deal with it all for the honeymoon. If I were a virgin at my wedding though I would feel like it would be good for it to be like a tidy bikini wax (not brazillian) because A- that is setting up for him to expect that all the time maybe, and B-If you waited to have sex I would imagine you would want it to be like a very natural experience…I don’t know how to explain it
also keep it tidy because it’s a little hard to figure out what is all going on and making sure that things feel good and unruly hairs won’t help make it easier
Post # 11
I’m not a huge fan of bikini waxes (although I have my eyebrows done all the time) so I opt for regular shaving instead. All I can say is make sure to get a few waxes in before the honeymoon so you can get through that first experience without any issues.
My best friend had her first wax right before leaving for her destination wedding….needless to say it was a romance free honeymoon.
Post # 12
I’ve been getting brazillians since college and I love it.
If you’ve never done it before definitely go for a bikini wax first so you know what it feels like and what you can tolerate. Find a place that uses hard wax, (not strips). It’s way less painful. Take an advil about 30 minutes before your appointment. After the wax, you should use a tea tree oil to calm your skin.
The more you do it, the less hair will grow back. Also, after a while it won’t really hurt anymore. I’ve been getting them for so long that at this point it’s not even painful, (just a minor momentary sting).
I personally think they are totally worth it. It just feels so much cleaner and sexier down there.
Post # 13
@sweetchiquita12: Haha bush woman…thanks! That is a relief!
Post # 14
Go natural!! Grown women are supposed to have a bush and if your FI doesn’t like it, or it gets places he doesn’t want it to be, he is doing something wrong. Also, if this is your first time, he should be expecting a wonderful and intimate experience with his new wife, no matter what her hair looks like. IMO
Post # 15
Thanks for your imput and support! I was at first considering doing it myself, but a few weeks ago I realized that might not be the best option – and after doing more research I realized that: yes, probably not the best idea. So after more consideration I’m hopefully (pending nerves) going to get a bikini wax soon
Post # 16
Dont let people’s reactions pshyche you out. It really isn’t THAT bad. And it is really the best option for bathing suit season! No bumps or anything!