(Closed) Way not wedding related but just need to talk to people

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it’s normal to mourn the death of a significant ex, that said, the depth of grief over his death that you are describing, even a year later, is probably excessive. If you are genuinely in love with your Fiance you can’t let him come in second to a dead man. If it’s affecting your current relationship as deeply as it sounds like it is I would think you should probably seek out someone professional to talk to about how to process your feelings.

Post # 5
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Everyone deals with death differently. It’s normal and okay for you to be grieving. I am concerned, though, over the intensity of your grief and your strong desires to have your ex express his love for you. I can understand why your reaction is hurting your FI—you have a huge emotional investment in this other man.

I think that you and your Fiance need to talk with someone together because this has become much more than your grief—it’s hindering you ability to be in a healthy relationship.

Post # 6
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am so sorry, I cannot imagine what you are going through… I for one cannot believe that your Fiance would say that to you! That is just wrong. But I imagine that the fact that you are still talking about your ex 2 years after he passed away has to hurt your Fiance in some way or another… Because obviously you still have some kind of feelings for him if you are still dreaming about him. Which I understand that… I really do. However, your Fiance probably doesn’t. I think it would be a great idea to talk to someone about it to try and figure things out. Even though I am no professional I am always here if you need someone to talk to 🙂

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