- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
So, I am feeling really unmotivated to do things like, say, write my thesis today. Instead I am going to do a wedding recap. Is that even allowed after all this time? I do not know… We’ve been married 20 months as of yesterday (I enjoy counting as if our marriage was a toddler).
Anyway, we had a lovely, fun wedding and I thought it’d be fun to show you bees some pictures and talk about how we kept the budget manageable (with a ton of help from our friends and families of course). I keep telling my husband we should get married again because it was such a wonderful time, but he is not as on board for some reason ;). The pictures are by Adam Palmer Photography except for those that are clearly personal (read: poor quality) like my second ring picture down there.
My ring is a .75 round brilliant moissanitein white gold. I love her to death. The ring my husband wore for the pictures was one I’d given him as a gift when we were dating. The ring he wears now (second picture) he made himself out of a nut that was lying around at the machine shop on our campus (he’s a manufacturing engineer) and machined in his spare time. So, all the ring budget went to mine. I don’t have a wedding band, but I’m sort of on the look out.
My mom generously bought my dress for me (but I’m counting up everyone’s expenses here, not just ours). We found it at a consignment shop for about $250. Apparently they had received a donation of a bunch of Italian runway dresses (though, that’s just what the sales people told me). Lucky for me they were all in my size, oh how I love trying on wedding dresses. It fit well, so the only alteration we needed was to cut out the satin train, so that the lace would stand out more. My grandmother was a professional seamstress, and she did that for me with help from my mom. My mom and I made my veil from a comb and tule I got with Joanns coupons. I wore a bracelet my parents gave me and earrings that my MIL gave me.
My husband saw the wedding as an opportunity to get himself a nice, well fitting suit. He had several from before, but didn’t find any of them wedding material. We got his at Banana Republic for about $500. I have stopped teasing him for spending so much because he wears it all the time while, to my sorrow, I don’t wear my dress much anymore. He got a new shirt and a new tie as well, but wore shoes he already had.
We were also able to find my MILs shoes at her parents home and they fit so she let me wear those as well. The poor things got a bit dirty, but they came through pretty well.
We are LDS (Mormon) and were married in the Hawaii temple, which is completely free. It isn’t customary to tip, or of course we would have. No photography is allowed inside an operating temple, so that is why we don’t have any ceremony pictures. The room looks like the one below (pictures are taken before a temple is “dedicated” and starts operating). There are two big mirrors facing each other so that you can see yourselves together into etermity.
We had our reception in my husband’s aunt’s beautiful back yard (which is common in his family). It was especially fun because she and I have been friends for years, and she set us up.
Our biggest wedding disagreement was over the tables. I dreamed of picnic tables (I actually wanted picnic blankets, but realized that wouldn’t be particularly confortable for our guests), but my MIL felt like a wedding should have round. Back and forth we went, and eventually compromised and got both. I have some cousins who rent out picnic tables, so we got ~12 for $5 a piece (the family discountfrom $8). My in laws paid for the roundtables. We, to our surprise, got several compliments on mixing them both.
My MIL is amazing with flowers and with the help from my bridesmaids and other family members she did our arrangements as well as my flowers, and my bridesmaids’ (and bought the flowers, including the leis my husband and the other guys wore). I really wanted daisys as they are my favorite flower and my husband often buys them for me. I made the charm with a picture of my husband’s grandparents whose anniversary we were married on. He is named after his grandfather who has passed away, and his grandmother is in her late 90s and wasn’t able to travel. His grandmother also wrote a poem about us, so I included it on the other side.
I was sort of going for a wildflower, eclectic look with the tables, so they’re all different.
Some wonderful friends who have a tropical flower farm also bought some potted flowers to brighten things up
The space was so beautiful that we didn’t have to do much.
My husband’s amazingly thrifty aunt was visiting pre-wedding and picked up ~20 white table clothes at $2 a piece. I bought a couple large curtains/sheets at a thrift store for about $5 and tie dyed them wiith dye I already had on hand. My husbands aunt who introduced us also introduced me to tie dye, which I love. My mom hemmed them for me, as she is a saint (oh how bored I get hemming…).
I wanted a beach glass kind of thing, but it is really hard to find natral beach glass, especially when you’re planning from Utah ;). My mom held on to glass jars and bottles as she came across them and we got a bunch from my aunts as well. We used some for vases, and some for candle holders. I was getting discouraged de-stickering the bottles, and some had things burned in to them, so my mom tried tacky gluing sand on and we loved it. So we did that to all of them. My sister wrapped wire around the top and we stuck engagement pictures in them (with varrying degress of success in the wind). We also did somthing similar with shells. We picked up some paper lanters at a yard sale (~$4) and my husband cousin and my bridesmaid had saved a bunch from her wedding which we used as well. The mangos were included in the venue ;). I laughted when I saw that picture, both families are a bit obsessed with fresh mangos.
My mom filled a basket she already had with sand for cards, and we made the favors. I was iffy about them, but people seemed to like them well enough.
I got a groupon for one guestbook, and a gift card at a bridal fair for the other, so they were probably about $20 including shipping. I thought things would be faster with two. My husband and I grew up in the same town, went to the same schools etc. (though we didn’t meet until we were in college in another state), so we have a lot of pictures in the same places and I made one book of side by sides of us growing up. The other book was things we did together and engagements.
I also really wanted a finger print tree. It didn’t go quite as I expected, but it was still fun. My BIL who is quite an artist drew it for me on a canvas he had, though we did have to buy inks. The “distressed” net which actually was probably once used for fishing was already there.
We also had a picture of the temple my bridesmaid gave me from my bridal shower, and a multiple frame from my mom as well as pictures of our parents, grandparents, etc. decorating. Most of those pictures we just borrowed from our parents houses, but we did print out a few new ones at home and put them in frames my mom had around, which my mom is still displaying. My sister took those ttd pictures for us with a dress I got for another photo shoot.
My mom also made us a beautiful quilt in our wedding colors ($50?). After the wedding was over she took the table runners I made and sewed them into the back. I love it so much. In the foreground is my handsome younger brother 🙂
We got our invites and thank yous from Vistaprint with a great groupon. I really wanted to do them post card style, because it seemed to fit, our beachy, Hawaii theme. I know a lot of bees were not jazzed about the aloha shirts of the 2012 post card stamps but I was in heaven. We didn’t have programs or anything like that. Our recpetion was more of an open house set up (drop in, visit, eat, hang out, go home when you feel like it).
This is an estimation because my parents and grandparents pay for it. But, I saw some of the envoices and did price comparisons, so I think it’s pretty accurate. We had a full dinner for about 250 people and it was delicious. My biggest disappointment was that all the teriaki chicken was eaten before we got back from our honeymoon, tragic. My grandfather has a very good friend who he helped to build a kalua pig smoker (like the pigs in the ground but just with roasts, think pulled pork). So, they got the pork and he smoked it for us for free. My dad got tons and tons of chicken (I could have fit pretty comfortably in the cooler he soaked it in) and soaked it in teriaki sauce he made for 3 days. It was to die for. He then BBQd it himself, it smelled heavenly. I was worried he wouldn’t enjoy that but he was completely in his element. We got pans of rice, salad, and chicken long rice (sort of like chicken noodle soup, but with more ginger, but not as luquidy as pho) catered and bought a bunch of rolls. I froze limes and blueberries in ice cubes to make color coordinated flavored water. Unfortunately blueberries turn purple, not blue, when they melt. Oops. We borrowed these pretty drink containers from a cousin and friend. We also had 6 big sheet cakes that were amazing.
My dad’s cousin made them and we supplied ingredients, and both my mom and grandfather tried to pay her but I’m not sure if she ever accepted. One of my favorite wedding conversations occured around these cakes. We were having a pow wow to decide how much of everythign we needed, and my dad and grandfather decided to estimated VERY high on the cakes so that they could have lots of leftovers. They also picked out the favors. I was glad they were excited.
My aunts and grandmother took turns serving food and we had paper plates and such. I know this wouldn’t be acceptable in a lot of culture, but it’s the norm for us. My husband said the sectioned plates remind him of cafeteria lunch (he was raised in Hawaii, but still has some California tendencies ;). We used my great grandmother’s china.
Our cake was a masterpiece (though I’m very biased). A close friend of ours made it for us and we just bought the ingredients. She put in so much time and I was so touched. It is a naked Momofuku birthday cake with lilikoi (passion fruit) curd between the layers. Another dear friend saved us on the lilikoi, which is sort of like gold as far as I’m concerned because it’s so delicious and a bit hard to find. The store where we thought we could get it was closed when we went (and it was on the other side of the island, so we coudln’t really check back), but a friend of ours was moving (he went to the airport right after our reception) and had frozen a bunch of lilikoi for jam, but coudln’t take it with him. So, he generously donated it to our cake cause.
We used my parent’s cake topper (a blown glass version of the temple we, and they, were married in). My grandmother got us a cake cutting set, though I’m not exactly sure how much it cost.
Adam, who is my husband’s cousin, usually charges about $2800 for all he did for us, but was extremely generous and gave us our photos as our wedding gift. He took pictures at the temple (our people waiting before the ceremony, and then the usual pictures after the ceremony), then at the rocky point nearby (twice so that we could get afternoon light and the sunset) and at a beach as well as the reception. My husband has helped him with simple editing before, so we did most of the editing (any mistakes there are completely ours). He was happy to do prints but we didn’t decide which we wanted until we’d already gone home. Here are a few of my favorites that I haven’t already shared:
The Point. I have a giant version of this in our living room. Sometimes we wonder if we went too big, but I love it so much.
The temple grounds:
He also did our engagements which I shared here.
We did Ipod music, Adam brought his speakers, and had our first dance on the grass. I wish I would have had the presense of mind to go barefoot at that point. We didn’t have transportation costs as our town is tiny (our parents live down the street from each other, and down another stree to the ceremony and reception sites), and Adam actually just dropped us off and picked us up for pictures on his way from the ceremony and to/from the reception.
Thanks for looking!