Way too close to the wedding for this!!! RANT

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

yes, that is ridiculous.  a true friend would not give you the run around like this girl is doing to you.


Post # 3
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

sarahmichelle:  I don’t think you are being unreasonable. She is clearly not communicating appropriately or in a timely manner.

You do have a choice however, to not let this stress you out. She shows up on time, or she doesn’t. You will still be marrying the love of your life.

Does one person more or less  make the difference between one hotel room or two?

Post # 4
1634 posts
Bumble bee

Yikes, that would be incredibly frustrating! It depends on your relationship, but I’d probably just straight up ask her whats going on. I’m a non-confrontational person most of the time, but you’re not being unreasonable and she’s still being difficult. Does she not actaully want to be in the wedding party? Is something going on in her life personally that would make it difficult for her to be a BM, and would she find it easier if she attended as a guest? Maybe she doesnt even reaslize she’s being difficult… is she kind of a flaky person? Sorry you’re dealing with that, its difinitely not what you need so close to D-day!!

Post # 7
1055 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

sarahmichelle:  To Be honest, i would have cut her out of the wedding a long time ago. You can’t be a part of my wedding if you dont want to share the fun and activities that come with it. That is why you were selected as a bridesmaid….. to share my day. I’d say you need to cut her.

Post # 9
26 posts

Uggh this right here is why even though i am having bridesmaids and groomsmen, i am having unequal numbers and i dont even care. if you are there cool, if your not, cool, im getting married regardless at the time it saids on my invites and im not going to wait around for anyone. Im kind of upset at my maids as they have known about the wedding forever and two of them are out of jobs at the moment,(both are lazy about finding new ones) and they expect me to pay for the dresses. Umm NO sorry I cant afford it so if you cant afford it then dont be a bridesmaid (they had MONTHS to pay for the dress and waited till they got laid off). I’m like hey more money in my pocket. they can come as guest.

Post # 10
4956 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

sarahmichelle:  OMG. Do we share a bridesmaid?!?!?!?!

I have a bridesmaid that sounds SO similar. When asked for bachelorette dates, she said that she was busy all of April, May and June.  April/May because she was finishing school and June because she had to look for a job. This was back in DECEMBER. We just chose to plan things without her and if she couldn’t come…OH WELL!

She showed up an hour late to my shower because of “traffic”. Oh yeah? Traffic in the suburbs on a Sunday morning. Everyone else coming from that area seemed to make it in time….

She told me she won’t wear any makeup (that I am paying for) because it makes her break out. 

She had no money so I paid for her dress. I was more than happy to do this…however,she thinks this means I can also afford to pay for her shoes, jewelry, purse, bachelorette party, etc. Sorry honey, its 2 months til the wedding – I have a WEDDING to pay for.

She also has been emailing my MOH complaining about having NO money and she “doesnt know” how she will come to the bachelorette. UM…. JUST SAY YOU CANT COME! I know her money situation and would NEVER be upset about her not being able to attend. 

Honestly… I would STOP worrying about it. She’s making no one look like an asshole but herself. If she isnt ready in time/ doesn’t show up for wedding pics, etc…thats her own problem. Then shes just not in the pictures/doesnt walk down the aisle. OH WELL. This is HER issue and I would probably distance myself from her if this does happen. Remember that you’re marring your FI and that your friends who are reliable will be there for you on the big day! 


Post # 11
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Oh bridesmaid problems! I think that is why some people have none! I agree if they are not there on time, then just get married without them! its all about you and your fiance! nothing in the wedding will be perfect anyways so i would just stop stressing out about her if I were you, and I wouldnt want her as a friend if she would be like that to you on your most imortant day.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  znowbird22.
Post # 12
2818 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sweetheart…ignore her. For your sanity. Just pretend she doesn’t exist. If she shows up on time, good. If she doesn’t, have the ceremony without her. It’s just not worth the effort to try to wrangle her at this point. 

Post # 13
1055 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

sarahmichelle:  That is really unfortunate. I would still cut her. Or get your hubby to talk to his friend and explain the situation.

Post # 15
2047 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

sarahmichelle:  well if her hubby is in the BP then hopefully she wont forget to show up on the wedding day lol…. but you know what? just make sure they are at the end of the processional line (just in case) and if all goes sour her hubs can walk down with the last couple (boy oreo)…. at this point if she shows for pics? who cares…. you’ll have tons of pics with your other BMs and she will be in ones after the ceremony….honestly maybe its better she does miss a few in case you have a falling out over this and at least you have some pics you can look at without getting PO’d…. jk… I mean obviously you want here there but my main point is just let whatever happens happen and if she shows she shows if not, you’ll still be married and no one else besides her hubs will care/notice if shes there. I’ve seen uneven BP before and no one as a guest will care if theres an extra name on the program….. whatever she does, dont het it ruin your day!

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