Post # 1
My Mother just passed away on September 17, and my wedding is right around the corner on Nov 4th. I know my Mother would not have wanted me to cancel it, so I am going forward with it. I have already spoke to the florist and I am having a boquet of flowers made to place on a chair for her and my FI and I are each also going to place a rose on the chair. I have changed my bouquet to include her favorite flowers. But even with all that I feel like I should be doing something else to honor her. Does anyone have any other thoughts or suggestions. Maybe some way we can include her in the reception? I just feel so overwhelmed and feel like I should be doing more.
Post # 3
Can you wear something of hers? From her wedding day or a favorite piece of jewelry?
Post # 4
I’m very sorry you lost your mother and am glad you’re going forward with the wedding as she would have wanted you to do.
Do you want to honor her in a private way? or for everyone to share in you honoring her? If it’s private I think wearing a piece of jewelry (or putting in your bouquet) is a great idea, just as mepayne suggested. If you’d like to honor her at the reception you could have a table set up with a few photos in frames and in another frame write a special memory of your mom, a funny story or how your mom felt about you marrying your FI.
I know if I was a guest at your wedding I’d like to see pictures of your mom and especially read a story about who she was and what she meant to you.
Post # 5
We are going to do this for our wedding.
My FI’s mother died on November 6th, 2011 and it has been hard without her…
I’m sorry your mother has passed….
My FI will be lighting the candle after I walk down the isle.
Our card will say, “In loving memory of ________________. Who will always be in our hearts.”
Then I will place a flower from my bouquet on an empty seat.
Some people think that is insensitive, or creepy but to us it is completely the opposite.
Post # 6
I am so sorry for your loss. This idea might be a bit hard for you as it is so soon after your Mom’s passing. I would have a hard time not tearing up if I saw my FI wearing this, but I love the sentimentality of taking an old pocket watch and adding a pic.
Post # 7
mepayne I wish I had something of hers from her wedding but sadly she saved nothing. As far as jewlery I haven’t even gone through it all yet,, but I could see what she had and maybe find something of hers. I had order a memorial braclet , and I had them cut off some of her hair that I was going to place inside the braclet. Hopefully that gets here soon and I will be able to wear that.
Ill Be Mrs B Thank you so much for the wonderful idea. I love the idea of setting up a table and having her pictures and maybe a story about her inn a frame. That sounds perfect! I have a picture that she had in a frame that was my grandmother, my Mother and myself in a frame that said Three Generations and had a saying on it. I could put that up. Hadn’t even considered that. Thank You!!
JoJoDahling I don’t think that is insensitive at all. I think that is a beautiful tribute. I had thought of a candle for ours, but I would need to put it in something since we are getting married on the beach. Afraid if there was a breeze it would blow out. But Ill Be Mrs B. idea maybe I could even put a candle like that at the reception, all thought don’t want people to think that I am trying to set up a memorial service.
julies1949 Thank You for that idea. That would be beautiful. Just think that with it being so fresh that if I was looking at that during the ceremony, I may not get through it. I think it is a lovely idea and a great way to honor someone.
Thank You all for your wonderful ideas and kind words.
Post # 8
I saw something on weddingbee earlier today. Another bee’s mother had passed away before her wedding, and she pinned a picture of her mother in her dress, so that she would be with her the entire day. I thought that was sweet.