Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
Lately I’ve been trying to do more to make DH feel special, etc, because I would like him to do the same. I figure it’s nice to lead by example, and even if he doesn’t catch on, I’ve done something nice for my husband, which makes me feel nice. For a while before the wedding and part of the time after it, it was feeling like we weren’t really trying (or courting one another), so I wanted to try to get back to that. The more affection, the better, right?
I’ve been actually cooking him something to take to work for dinner (like fajitas, spaghetti) instead of just making a sandwich or tossing him a hot pocket. He’s a police officer and works 5p-3a 4 days per week, so we don’t get to see each other much those days. Cooking him something makes me feel like I’m sending him to work with a little more love and care than I have been lately. I’ve also been writing him a little something on the tupperware (ours is meant to be written on with a dry-erase marker), like “I love you!” etc.
I’m struggling to think of what other little things I can do on a fairly regular basis. What do you do for yours? What does he or she do for you?
Post # 2
My husband hates doing laundry. He would wear dirty cities all the time if he was able. So I make sure to do all his laundry at least once a week. I also cook for him and make sure to bake his favorite cake (German chocolate) for holidays. When he has to travel for work, I send him a couple dozen oatmeal raisin cookies to take with him. Doesn’t seem like much but it doesn’t go unnoticed by him. 🙂
Post # 3
I honestly just tell him in a blunt way that he’s the single most important person in my life, and that he makes me happy. He’s glowing for hours after that. I’m the same way when he says it to me.
Sometimes just hearing that someone values you is enough. 🙂
Post # 4
I make sure to regularly do things that span the Five Love Languages, not just his favorite, and I choose things that HE will enjoy.
For Quality Time I suggest/accept doing things I do not necessarily like but that I know he will really love doing with me (tossing a frisbee for example). For Words of Affirmation, I will point out something he does that I really appreciate and the reason why it means so much to me, or I would express my admiration at a special quality he demonstrates often, etc. For Gifts, I sometimes bring him a scented soap or candle as he loves these, etc.
Other ideas that I only do occasionally to make him feel special: I do not bake often but out of the blue I would bake something yummy as a surprise, sometimes I go change into a sexy outfit he really likes just before sex, etc.
Basically the best you know your guy, the easiest it is to find special things to do to please him. The key is to focus on doing things HE will enjoy, and not just things that YOU would enjoy : )
Post # 5
gingerkitten: DH cooks for us during the week bc I get home later than him.
So on the weekends I will wake up early and make him breakfast. I will get a head start on laundry and cleaning the house so he doesnt have to do much. One of the big things Im looking forward to is throwing him a surprise party bc hes never had a surprise party before!! 20 more days til his big day! Cant wait to see his face!
Post # 6
My SO is gone for a while so I’m taking the time to reflect on what makes the relationship so nice and compiling my thoughts, some pictures, random internet things, lyrics, and quotes from our old convos into a book that I’m hand binding. I’m going to give it to him just because.
Hopefully he’ll feel special haha
Post # 7
My SO is big on touch, so I will give him a foot rub after work or scratch his back while he falls asleep.
Sometimes I will cook him breakfast when he gets up for his night shift job.
Post # 8
On a regular basis, I remember to always thank him for his encouragement and encourage him. I take him to dinner or go to his place and cook. I also try to take a few minutes with him just to cuddle and tell him that I love him because he likes that.
Post # 9
Since I do the grocery shopping, I always pick up something that he likes, particularly something that I don’t eat. I guess I should do that anyways, maybe a lot of people do….but he seems really excited when he sees those gross microwaveable taquitos in the freezer. <br /><br /><br />
Post # 10
I get his toothbrush ready for him when I think of it. It seems silly but it’s a small little thing that let’s him know I’m thinking of him and sometimes when he is super tired it makes brushing his teeth that bit less of an effort.
I haven’t done this yet but thought it was an awesome idea, especially seeing as it is winter here atm – steal his towel whilst he’s in the shower, run it in the drier for a few minutes and then wrap him in it when he gets out. I thought that it sounded really cute and sweet.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
These are all great ideas!
I really like the warm towel idea (DH LOVES showers) and special treats, keeping the house clean and organized. I got started cleaning up the house today, but for us it’s a multi day event 😛
I’ve also been trying to do a few of “his” chores lately (loading and unloading the dishwasher, etc) since he works more hours than I do. And I think I’ll pick up some beer for him on Wednesday for him to enjoy this weekend 🙂
Keep ’em coming!
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Whenever he does something little like get my favorite snack/ stay up with me/ etc I just make sure to let him know how much I appreciate it with lots of kisses and such. His face lights up which I think is cute 🙂 But it always feels nice to feel appreciated. Or I also write him little notes as well throwing in a kissy face or heart in there since I like doodling. He gets out of work then showers so while he’s in the shower I get his pjs ready and set them on the counter so he won’t have to go through our cold room to get them.
Post # 13
great post! i sometimes find it hard to do smth romantic/sweet for a guy. I mean my FI will not appreciate scented soap that is sure =) but apart from cooking him smth that he loves i have no ideas….
Post # 14
For my man, it’s a cuddle, kiss, tell him how much I appreciate everything he’s done for us, how proud I am of our lives together. Then the best way to woo Mr Rhianfa is to bring home a fillet steak and cook some homemade chips (fries to my American friends!), grillied mushrooms and rare steak. Oh and a good bottle of red.
If I’m feeling particularly romantic (which I am now, after reading all your fabulous ideas), it’s a back massage and watching boy films or playing computer games!
Daily ideas, include making sure he has some shirts cleaned and ironed for him, make his lunch and dinner, clean house – y’know all the good ol’ fashioned housewife stuff 😀 traditional bloke I’ve got <3
Post # 15
gingerkitten: I’m not sure how much you work, but maybe give him a “chore free” day? Or a nice backrub when he gets home/wakes up. My husband always comes home to a clean house, his laundry put away and dinner ready since I don’t work, and he loves it. If I really feel like spoiling him I’ll usually cook a multi course meal along with a freshly baked dessert. We’ve also had movie nights where I’ll make a bunch of finger foods (i.e. potato skins, egg rolls, etc) and we’ll watch his favorite movies. You could also plan a small, local mini vacation doing something he likes (my husband likes fishing, golf, etc).