WB is not like I remember it…

posted 3 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I haven’t been on here that long, but I do notice a good amount of bees covering themselves – like disclaimers because some people pick apart statements.  I read the “expectation of backlash” in a lot of posts and I do think that is a little sad. I wish people would just assume the best in people until proven otherwise.


Post # 4
9204 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

Yeah I agree, it is definitely a lot snarkier around the bee lately.

Post # 6
326 posts
Helper bee

I’m actually at the point I don’t like posting my e-ring. I posted it just the other day when I finally got it after MONTHS of waiting, and because I’d posted a stand-in and said great things about it, people automatically assumed I was a liar. Granted, I don’t explain things perfectly, but it was literally the next day I was posting how excited I was for my forever ring to come. People thought my fiance’s sister was flirting with him because I didn’t explain something well on one post! So obviously I’m not always the best explainer, lol. I didn’t think it would look suspicious at all, but apparently it did. Even after I’d posted several times that my fiance is several years older than me, established well, etc., people still couldn’t take that as an answer. Yes, I may be a bit over-sensitive. But, I pride myself on being a very honest person, and for everyone to just assume I’m a liar because I didn’t word something perfectly is offensive. I’m sorry. But it is. I always give people the benefit of the doubt, and to insinuate someone’s a liar on their own thread being excited about their new engagement ring is a bit inappropriate in my opinion. Wish I’d joined back when the bee was more friendly!

Post # 7
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

Interesting to hear. Four years is a long time though, especially in “internet years.” I’d imagine that most websites have changed significantly in that time!

Post # 8
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@okqueenbee:  Yes! I have only been on here a month and there is a HUGE amount of snarkiness towards other people. I try to be nice but some people are just downright sneering little high school girls who try and make you feel as though if you don’t have the best of everything then why the hell are you even bothering getting married?  Experience has told me that usually if people are sneering down their noses and judging others, it’s usually to keep from being judged themselves… so all is not happy and joyous in their own life. But it’s pretty darn good in my life so I just remember these girls are unhappy and move on. 

Post # 9
1905 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@okqueenbee:  I haven’t been a member for too long, BUT i can see what you are saying for sure. It seems like every thread people are just LOOKING for something to attack at someone.

Post # 10
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think that until I compare to other online forums…then I’m back to being grateful for the bee!

Post # 11
122 posts
Blushing bee

I’ve noticed this as well. I was a veryyyyyy long time lurker, just recently actually joined. Posters now are more bitter and miserable. I just ignore them.

Post # 12
2467 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@okqueenbee:  I completely agree.  I’ve been a member for about 3 years,  and just in that time span,  I can tell a difference. I think it is partly because the site has more members than before. 

Post # 13
7915 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I don’t know that a negative snarky thread about negative snarkiness will help with snarky negativity….

Post # 15
2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

Certain boards (like ring) do convey that kind of perception.

But.. I’ve only been on WB since April or May of 2013.

When WB gets snarky, I hide in Offbeat Bride, lol.

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