(Closed) We all hate the bride!! LONG!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
3226 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

wow, that’s a tough one

 

i’m not sure how comfortable you would be about talking to John..how close of a friend he is.  you could just ask him why was there such a quick change of heart (one minute wants to break up, next is engaged!)  maybe he really does love her, in which case, i’m not sure you should be putting her down and saying bad things about her to him.  or maybe he’s confused?

honestly, I dont know!!!

Post # 4
Member
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Wow!  This is really nuts!  I think it’s probably best for your husband to talk to him one on one and find out what changed, why he got engaged, just be there to listen and hear him out.  If you guys come at this guy intervention-style and very confrontational, you will wig him out and he’ll stop talking to you… obviously he has trouble standing up for himself.  Frankly I would want to save a friend from a similar situation!  But I think you need to make sure you are the opposite of his psycho fiance – where she is reactive and hypersensitive, you guys need to be calm and accepting of him no matter what. Good luck and let us know as the story unfolds!

Post # 5
Member
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would let “John” know exactly how i feel. I would try to support him but i would also  just tell him in the nicest way possible(if that is even possible) that you cannot take her crap anymore.  If he doesn’t understang then i would forget him 2! LOL J/K but seriously the gurl obviously LOVES the attention. Maybe she’s jealous of ya’lls friendship.

that’s sweet of you to offer to do so and if she doesn’t like the idea u had then she doesn’t deserve the party. she also doesn’t deserve the kindness your giving her. ESPECIALLY with her rude remark.

Post # 6
Member
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

I’m a firm believer that you should disclose your concerns BEFORE the wedding.  Take him out, sit him down and lay it out.  Tell him you love him.  Tell him you think he’s making a mistake.  Tell him that you’re telling him this before he makes the biggest mistake of his life.  Tell him you support him no matter what he decides.  If he takes your advice, you’ve saved your friend.  If he doesn’t, then don’t speak another word about it, but realize that the relationship will most likely dissolve on it’s own due to his fiancee’s actions.

Post # 8
Member
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

First, let me say how sorry I am you’re going through this. It’s never easy when you don’t like a close friend or family member’s SO. It sucks. It really does.

Second, I’ve been through this, and the best you can do is privately, but casually, say you’re concerned about the engagement. Say you’ll support whatever makes him happy, and if this girl is it, then you’ll be there for him, but explain your concerns. If he chooses her, then that’s that.

Usually when people are in bad relationships, there’s nothing anyone else can do. They have to realize it for themselves. My mom’s had about three bad, bad boyfriends over the past few years, and I’ve learned that lesson the hard way, unfotunately.

The best you can do is be there for him, and it sounds like you’re doing that, and that you’re a great friend to have.

The topic ‘We all hate the bride!! LONG!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors