- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I’m sitting at the hotel right now, on the way to our Carnival cruise. We left after the wedding last night and I lost my voice during the wedding. But oh my goodness am I happy with everything pretty much. Let me rewind though to just a few days ago.
Everything was started to get so busy on Thursday. We still had to finish the bouquets, boutaniers, pick up the linen, get the straps sewn on my dress, and so much more (I’m tired so I’m not thinking completely). It got to the point where my mind was going in overdrive and I didn’t have a minute to relax. I was up until 3am putting the bridesmaids bouquets together on Thursday night. I also had 12 online tests to take before Friday, so I was B-U-S-Y.
So I wake up on Friday at 8am and get to work. Busy busy busy trying to finish my tests, do the finishing touches on the bouquets, pack for the honeymoon, drop the USB port at the church and talk to the sound guy, pick up linen, get the straps done etc. All had to be done before 4pm. Originally we were set to meet at the church at 4:30, the preacher needed us to go early at 4 s o it was even more hectic.
We barely got everything done and made it back to my home in time. We went to the rehearsal and set the church up. Things looked OK (we were on a budget) and everything went great. My uncle who was walking me down the aisle didn’t show up, nor did my aunt who had to say a Native American prayer during the ceremony so I was partly worried about that since we couldn’t go over it with either of them but surprisingly I didn’t freak out! Then we went straight to the rehearsal dinner at my fiances parents house.
Let me pause and mention during all this hectic wedding planning time my now mother in law emailed me saying how happy she was that I was marrying her son, that she loved me and that I have been so great for him. I emailed her back telling her how much I respect her and appreciate them. It was a very heartwarming email exchange where we both got all teary eyed. At the rehearsal dinner she pulled my mom to the side to tell her how wonderful I was and how happy she was that I was marrying her son. My now Mother-In-Law started crying talking to my mom saying I was an angel. It really made me feel so much better about everything in regards to my now inlaws.
It started pouring while we were at the rehearsal and our rehearsal dinner was outside. My Mother-In-Law was freaking out because she left her friends there to take charge of everything and had no idea what was going on and worried so much about the rehearsal dinner and the rain. But we get there and everything was so beautiful. She had these dark picnic tables lined up with wine glasses and candles inside. Small antique bottles in between with flowers in them. Apparently before they moved the tables under the tents and car port there were tiki torches too. It was beautiful with burlap runners on all the tables and a nice full bar in the back yard with a bartender!
They had appetizers and so much food and it was so good. We all had a great time hanging out and talking. I drank a beer and we got ready to head out to my bachelorette party. Me and the girls with my now husband (It’s so exciting to say that!) took a shot and the girls and I hit the road. We went to Savannah Georgia and drank quite a bit. There were some real creeps but us girls had a great time.
We got home at 3am and instantly went to bed. Boy was I tired! I didn’t sleep too great and finally got up at 8am to start getting everything ready. My fiance stayed the night at his parents house so we couldn’t see eachother until I walked down the aisle. We started to get ready and my fiance had to come home to get his tux. In an effort to not see eachother I was crammed up in the bathroom for an hour waiting for him to get his things together and head out. Finally he did and I was ready to start getting ready.
I grab my makeup bag and start to do my makeup for the wedding. I spent hundreds of dollars on makeup for the wedding and on the morning of the weddin a huge chunk of the makeup was gone. I asked the kids to look for it (I have a 5 year old and my brother was at our home with his two kids) and they couldn’t find anything but the bag the makeup was in, the bag was full the night before but all of a sudden it was completely empty. I started to panic. My brother found a few pieces of makeup from the bag on the table in the living room but that was it. I sent my mom to check her car (which was left where the rehearsal dinner was a good drive away) at around 3pm. We had to be at church at 12 so I was bugging out. But I made do with what makeup I did have. I did the basic foundation concealor powder blush, pretty green and gold eyeshadow, fake lashes, lip liner (I like to smear it in, it creates a longer lasting lip color) and lip gloss. At about 12:15 my mom came back in. My uncle showed up and we were ready to get to the church.
We made it to the church at 12:30pm and got to work. All the while my fiance is running around freaking out (he did this the day before too because of the rental car issues we had) because the musicians nor the sound guy had shown up on time. They were all supposed to be there at 11 but none of them came in until 1pm. The ceremony started at two.
So I get there in PJs with my hair all messy and the bridesmaids all over the place. Thank goodness for my mom because I forgot so many things at home and had to send her to my home 3 times before the ceremony. The girls and I all started getting ready and I accepted the fact that my bridesmaid wasn’t going to be there. I’d talked to her the week before and she said she might not have the money but she would try. I offered everything I could to help her out but heard nothing back from her before the wedding. So my mom ran home and grabbed the bridesmaid dress and I asked my other cousin to stand in. I would have preferred her anyways but I didn’t think she would be able to make it since she lives in Kansas. She put the dress on we all did our hair and got dressed and it was almost time to walk down the aisle. All this time I didn’t panic or get angry or anything. Although we were all mixed up and not even ready for the ceremony until 2:15 (it was supposed to start at 2) Then the preacher came in the room to talk to me in private.
He said he woke up in the morning and was concerned and worried about the prayer my aunt would be reading during the ceremony (even though I’d went over it many times with him before the ceremony) and that because of his faith he just didn’t feel right with her saying the prayer because he didn’t know if it went along with his faith or not. He said it would be against his faith to have it done there. The prayer went along with the faith, I share the same faith as him, I wouldn’t put a prayer that went against my faith anywhere near my wedding. So his comments about it bothering him all morning and his faith just wouldn’t allow him to let her pray upset me. I wasn’t upset at all until this point. But I got offended by his comments. He offered to let her do the native american vase ceremony though so I was alright with that, but I was still offended and still am. Now I don’t know if I will feel comfortable at the church anymore knowing how he felt and what he was assuming of me.
Then my aunt and uncle showed up. Two people who were not invited because they were heavy meth users. But I shrugged it off, I was about to get married!
We all line up outside the door and the girls start to walk. From the other door I could see how everything was set up and everyone seated and I could see my fiance. I almost cried when my brother was pulling the aisle runner out. I started to get sick to my stomach and shaking I was so nervous. Then I saw my husband up there and he was so handsome! It looked like he saw me through the window (but it was the milk glass) and I got all excited. And before I knew it it was my time to walk. I took a deep breath, grabbed tight to my uncles arm and started walking.
The moment I saw my husband my nerves went away. I was happy and didn’t notice anyone else in the room at all. I don’t know how the bridesmaids were standing or anything. I just walked to him and couldn’t stop smiling.
The ceremony started, my uncle gave me away and everything went great. Then it was time for the traditional vows. My husband went first and he had to repeat after the preacher. When he was saying his vows he started to cry and his lip was quivvering. It was so incredibly sweet. It made me all emotional but I didn’t have my waterproof mascara so I forced away the tears. I knew I wouldn’t be able to get through the vows without crying so I whispered them to my fiance during the ceremony which helped but it was hard.
Then it was time for the vase ceremony. On the way to the table I realized that no one probably put water into the vase before the ceremony. I checked when we got to the table and sure enough there was no water. When it came time to drink from the vase it was all awkward shaped and I couldn’t get it right and was fumbling around with it. Everyone laughed so I tried to quickly pretend to drink water and sure enough hit my tooth with the ceramic vase. Ouch!. My fiance took the vase, pretend drank and we went back to our positions to finish the ceremony. We were pronounces man and wife, kissed (he added in a little tongue lol) and left to take pictures.
We got all the pictures done and went inside. It was great. We got announced and everything just started to blend together. It went so smoothly (thanks to my in laws friends) and everyone was having a great time. We mingled, we ate, and before we knew it it was time for the toasts. My brother in law was up first.
In his speech he said he didn’t know me well because I was so shy and he is away at college but he’s so happy I’m marrying his brother. That he’s seen a huge growth in his brother and sees such the big change that he has made since we met, that he’s so happy I met my husband and so happy that we are who we are together. That he could see the love in our relationship and he wished us well. I got all choked up. Then it was time for my god mother to make her speech. And she’s a very outgoing loud person. But she was great, made a joke to my husband about “I’ve known Kristie since she was just a tiny child and that girl is headstrong, so David I’m going to give you a piece of vital information, and remember this… In your relationship you’re either right… Or you’re happy, you decide.” and she went on with her speech in those lines and we all laughed. She hasn’t been around me and my husband for a long time but when we argue I’m always fighting to be the one to be right (although in the recent months I’ve really been working on that) so her speech was perfect, she knew me so she knew what to say. Then my maid of honor stood up and made a short beautiful speech.
Then for some reason my uncle, the one who was not invited, the one I barely knew. During his speech I only understood 1/2 of what he was saying and what I understood didn’t make sense (like “Kristie, you’re a great person and David, I know he’s a great person because he’s a drummer) and the speech went on and on and on. But eventually he wrapped it up and all was well.
We cut the cake, tossed the bouquet and garder and it was time to head home to load the suitcases. Everyone stood outside with the bubbles and it was so pretty! We got in the car and went home. We get to our door and realize neither of us have the house key. We went back to the church and everyone was there cleaning up so we helped the clean up.
After cleaning up we went home and loaded everything in the car. We stopped downtown to take one shot with the family and friends and we hit the road. We got to our hotel at about midnight and well I wont go into details on what happened in the room (we’ve been abstinent for a while now, since our new faith we stopped and waited for our wedding night) and we crashed and now here I am.
We are about 2 hours from the port for our honeymoon, my now fiance is in bed and I’m about to wake him up, we will eat breakfast and go to the dock and get on our cruise ship and have a great time.
I am so incredibly pleased with how well everything turned out. Everythng was a hit. Everyone loved everything. We had a great time and I didn’t freak out about anything, apart from the makeup where I panicked, and the preacher with me being insulted but I didn’t let it get to me. I shrugged everything off and we had a great time.
I loved the wedding planning but I felt like a car had been lifted off my shoulders as soon as we left the church. It was a wonderful time but I was happy to be done with all the planning. I don’t know what I’m going to do with my time now!
I’m so happy to be married to this man in the room, and I can see he’s happy too. He loved the dress (he didn’t see it until the wedding) and everything just came together so well.
We don’t have the pics but some people posted on facebook already (I’m happy for that, it means we get more pictures) so here are the few that were posted so far.
The grooms cake, it was chocolate and a HUGE hit. Everyone loved them and the sticks were engraved with our names and wedding date.
Certainly not the best picture of me but hey, it’s from facebook
Me and my aunt, who did the native american vase ceremony
And my shoes.
Now I’m off to spend a wonderful vacation with my now husband, it’s such a wonderful feeling to be married to this man!
I will probably post pictures after the honeymoon of the wedding, and perhaps the honeymoon too… Until then… I’m off to relax!