- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Ermagerd we are totally married right now.
I think I went through the motions on our wedding day, which is to say that it doesn’t and didn’t feel real at the time and I’m still a bit in shock. I’m happy with the way everything turned out despite a few tiny glitches and I’m also really happy it’s over. We have a lot going on in regular life I’m excited to get back to.
I didn’t cry very much, if at all, although the same cannot be said for our guests. Everyone appreciated our little personal details.
That said, I do wish I could have felt more in the moment on the day. I’m not sure why it felt so distant to me, but I literally did not feel like I was getting married until I was about to walk down the aisle, and then had a massive panic attack while trying to calm myself down enough to get to my man!
I later found out he had a similar reaction. I think we just spent so much time going over every little detail that when we were actually doing it nothing felt real, just like more planning.
The wedding went just as planned which was a total miracle considering the hurricane could have screwed everything up. We did have a close call with our linens, which were delivered from New Jersey, but we ended up getting them in the nick of time. Also delayed but received at the last second was the gift for both the brides-dude and best man. Finally, we had some issues finding a source for the lighting gear we needed since our orignal plan was thwarted by power outages, but we called in some favors and it worked out.
The last potential issue was the gas shortage. We were fielding calls the day of from panicked guests wondering how much gas they’d need to get somewhere they could fill up. Everyone made it, however.
The things that went “wrong” are so tiny that I probably won’t remember them in a year. We felt our DJ started on the right foot but then was too lax in what requests he accepted (we like SOME pop music, but an hour long set including some terrible songs wasn’t in the plans). We also felt that our wedding planner’s assistant did a pretty awful job, but the planner herself was good. We have since been told the assistant has been fired, so I guess we were right about that one. The only thing that really messed up, though, was the timing at the very end of the night. Lastly, despite asking what extended family photos our parents wanted several thousand times, my FI’s mom ended up adding a large, complicated shot that she set up somewhere unlit. It was irritating because it forced us to pay extra to keep the cocktail hour longer, and it let a lot of people see the reception space before we wanted them too. Also, the photo is going to be terrible because it’s in a stupid place. Whatever.
Finally, and this is so totally minor, a stupid looking decoration was added as a “surprise” to our escort card table, despite us making clear we don’t want any surprises on our wedding day. It was really frustrating because it looked hella dumb, wasn’t in the spirit of our wedding, and nobody- not even our planner- thought to check with us about it. I’m not so mad about the decoration being put up, more about the boundary issue we clearly have with a particular family member.
I’ll totally get over that though.
I’m excited to share with you guys my DIY projects and some photos when they come in.
I hope other Nov. 3 brides also had a great time!