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Well, maybe he's not your husband or fiance. But he seems like an Amazing boyfriend. Good luck. Hope everything goes well.
Good luck with the surgery! Surgery sucks, I know from experience, but hopefully it will really help you out here!
I'm really glad that your boyfriend is stepping up to be supportive, good boyfriends make good husband material, yes? I also totally understand though how it would be better if he was your fiancé in the medical world. I have fears creep up now and then about what would happen if my boyfriend was in an accident. EEEEEK!
If you get too nervous when it gets closer to the surgery date come back here on the bee and I’m sure we will all be more than happy to help you calm down.
I'm sending good vibes your way! My father had to get the surgery on both of his hands. We were kind of worried because he's a dentist and couldn't work without his hands, but luckily, he regained full function and was free of pain relatively quickly.
Good luck with the surgery! One of my coworkers had that surgery done a month ago on both hands (!) and she said it was one of the best things she has ever done and she wishes she had done it sooner. She said all of the carpel tunnel pain was gone immediately after the surgery, and the only part that hurt was where the incision sites were located.
We just had our weekly counseling session, and I feel there has been progress. *sigh of relief*.
Good luck with everything! My fiance came will me for my tonsillectomy, and during the pre-op paperwork, the nurse was like "this is your husband?" And I said, "my fiance," and she was like, "okay, you're going to be the healthcare proxy, sign here." If you guys are close enough for him to come with you for a doctors appointment like that, then people know you're legit, and they won't care that you're not wearing jewelry to prove it.
I hope that it goes well! Both my parents had it done and also one of my school friends. I think I will end up having it done eventually since I'm already having to wear braces at night for it.
Thanks for all the cheering and info. It really helps! Now I have a day off before me today. I am hoping that I have all the things in mind and on lists to make my surgery/recovery work well.
I have some questions. One is, what have you heard from friends who had the scope surgery instead of incision? I am scheduled for incision, but could change to scope. I read in a book by a hand surgeon that he prefers the incision because it gives you longer to heal before you have to return to work. Any recommendations/ideas?
I have been calling my creditors to let them know I will be out of work for 6 weeks, and making arrangements to start paying again after my recovery. I've decided to pay my cell bill 4 months in advance, since it's possible to pay for 3 months and get the 4th free. No phone bills until July!
Basically, I'm trying to limit expenditures so I will have something to live on for the next couple of months. Less than 3 weeks of my leave will be paid.
I have been reading online about things to do to prepare for surgery. My biggest issue seems to be preparing so I will be as independent as possible. BF is willing to help me but doesn't want to be overburdened. I'm sure of this, since we talked about it in therapy last night. Any specific ideas? I am most concerned about food, since I won't be able to grind and brew my own coffee and wonder what types of food packages I will be able to open. Thanks bees, you are the best!
He doesn't want to be overburdened? He might need to come to grips with the fact that you are having surgery and will need help doing most things for at least the first few days. When I had surgery, my FI- (then BF), had to help me up and down the stairs, take a shower, cook, clean, carry anything, (since I was on crutches), and drive me to all of my post op appointments.
Sending positive thoughts!
Oh, just googled carpal tunnel surgery because I wanted to see what surgeons do and found this. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GKyhhg1cAGI
Is this what you are having done?
Thanks, bees. I changed my plans and am having the arthoscopic type of surgery, so I will be off work for approximately 3 weeks. I probably need to talk to Jason about his fears of being overburdened (my words, not his). What he directly expressed concern about was the possibility that I would not recover well and would lose my job. Hmm. We need to talk about that too!
Every day I spend at work, I experience intense pain. Taking naproxen 500s doesn't seem to help. I do ice my hands/wrists on my breaks and lunch, but that relief doesn't last long. Only 9 days of work until my surgery!
I think you need to practice doing everything you can with your non-dominant hand. Getting dressed is difficult, so keep it simple and plan on wearing clothes that can be pulled up with one hand (like sweats,yoga pants), and forget anything with buttons or zippers or anything that needs to be tied. You'll be brushing your teeth and fixing your hair with the opposite hand, so start doing it. You can tie your bad hand to your side and see how difficult it is to do all your normal things. Cutting food is impossible, so you'll need help in that department as well.
I had the surgical one, so I'm not sure what restrictions you'll have with the type you're having. I had a cast so was unable to drive until it was removed. It's also illegal to drive with one, so be aware if you'll be going to physical therapy,you'll need transportation.
Best of luck...but practice!
Thanks @smyley! I have been practicing doing stuff with one hand. I just decided I need to get a bunch of hooks to put over doors so I can hang up clothes, jacket, etc. It will be impossible I imagine to put stuff on a hanger! With the hooks, at least I wont have stuff all over the floor. :)
I had the surgery on my right hand about a year and a half ago. My carpal tunnel was stressing my wrist so much that I developed a cyst between the two small bones on my wrist. That's where the surgeon went in to perform the surgery...he removed the cyst and then did the surgery through the same incision. I have about an inch long scar on my wrist that you have to be looking for to notice.
I only received something to keep me calm and local anesthesia for the surgery. I was awake the whole time. I checked into outpatient at 6:30 and was home around noon. They send you home with this foam cube (that kind of reminds me of spongebob) that keeps you from bumping your hand into stuff. I was out of commission for 10 days total (11 counting the day of the surgery). It was a pain trying to use my left hand to do certain things...TMI ahead...learning to "wipe" with the left hand wasn't fun. The first couple of days, I took my pain medication pretty regularly, but after that, I only took it at night to help me sleep (again your spongebob foam allows you to rest without worrying about somebody or something knocking into your hand at night).
Thanks @Jamaicabride! That is VERY helpful information! We had a nice talk over dinner at a new restaurant tonight. He said he is fine with my surgery and recovery, since he knows I am planning ahead for any problem areas I can think of. He is also fine with helping me during my recovery. Any hesitation I'd sensed had to do with his ex, who would create emergencies and expect him to drop everything to fix them.
Feeling much better about US, and better about the surgery. I know it will be local, the spongebob thing sounds awesome, I hope I get one!
Wow, as my surgery grows nearer I am feeling ANXIOUS. Have to lay off the coffee (which I love) and remember to breath.
Yes! Breath and find some ways to relax. Sorry you're feeling anxious. I really think it will be no sweat.
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Hi fellow bees, we are meeting a surgeon today to discuss carpal tunnel surgery for my (dominant) right hand. BF is going with me, in fact took the whole day off so we can talk to the billing office at doc, my work and insurance, and discuss and plan including paperwork for protected leave from work for my surgery and recovery.
He is hoping I might be able to have physical therapy instead of surgery. I'm not thinking that is going to cut it (pun intended). At any rate, I am nervous and I think he is too.
Looking forward very much to feeling better, as I've had a lot of pain lately and this problem started about 15 years ago. It is strange to have him participating in all of this, and still not be engaged. It's okay, just feel it would be less awkward with the surgeon if I could say, this is my fiance or this is my husband.
Thanks for listening; please send good thoughts. :)