(Closed) We are moving next door to a 70 year old pervert

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Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

WOW! I am just as shocked!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Maybe introduce yourself and talk to his wife?  He is in the age range where things like dementia, alzheimers etc start to manifest, and all of those can cause people to say some very inappropriate things.  If you talk to his wife maybe you can get an idea of whether he’s a pervert to be avoided or a older, ill, person who needs some allowances made.  If it turns out he really is pervert rather then ill, I would look at filing a police report about the incident so if there are future issues, you have this one documented which will make getting the police to do something about it easier.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@CamNJ:  Nothing. What can you do? The neighbor has to live by his own moral compass. Your helper was at an age of consent, and had two choices: accept, or decline. He declined.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@nikkialys:  I think a police report is extreme. The man broke no laws. And just because he’s interested in a person of the same sex does not mean he’s perverted. He’s disrespecting his wife and family most definitely by trying to cheat, but this isn’t illegal.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I’d talk to the neighboors and ask if there is anything wrong with Mr.Pervypants, maybe its a dementia thing or maybe he IS a pervert.

 I say pervert, because hell, depending on what your friend looked like it could be anything from dementia, to a perfectly sane horny old man who has some serious boundry issues that could need to be addressed by the police maybe.

Talk to neighboors first.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@StuporDuck:  A police report would get him ticketed or arrested or anything, what it does do is protect the OP interests.  At this time they don’t know if this is a one time incident, or the start of a pattern of harrasement.  If it does end up being an issue, where the OP needs to look at pressing charges or restraining orders etc having all the previous incidents documented will make the process a lot easier/more succesful.  I don’t know about your specific location, but where I live, I could go down to the police departement, speak to the officer at the front desk and fill out a report where I would write down date, time, and what happened.  Depending on the complaint they might just file my report, or they might go out and speak with the person.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@StuporDuck:  I agree with everything you said.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Is this him?

(Sorry, couldn’t resist…)

I’d just ignore him unless it becomes a pattern.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s definitely strange and unsettling but I doubt there’s much that you can do. You could talk to his wife but then you’ll just make an enemy next door. I don’t know about anyone else, but I’d probably just keep to myself and avoid any contact with the guy than start anything with his family or blow the situation out of proportion by going to the authorities. If anything else happens, like to the point where he has some kind of physical contact, then of course you should do something about it but at this point he hasn’t really done anything wrong and it’s just his word against your workers. 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@nikkialys:  If anyone is going to do anything, it’s the worker, not the OP. Nothing was said to her or her SO. Even if the worker goes to the police, I kind of doubt anything will happen with the guy. Sure, he was a creeper but I don’t see this as much different than some dude hitting on a girl (or guy) at a bar. Those people aren’t ticketed or arrested for trying to pick up someone to have some fun with. If the guy made physical contact or it went any further then sure, but that doesn’t seem to be the case here. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would apologize in writing to the worker for your neighbor’s behavior and keep a record of it in case it comes back to you.

But really, there is nothing you can do. As someone who rides public transportation every day to work, I get propositioned at least once a month by men who are most likely drunk, mentally ill, or just desperate. Putting a police report will do nothing. 

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