(Closed) We are paying for the wedding shower… but (HELP!)

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It’s generally considered poor ettiquite to host your own shower, so I’d put someone else (preferably your aunt since she’s less closely related) on the RSVP. If FI’s family has questions, the aunt can always ask you or they can call your Fiance or his mom directly.


Post # 5
4485 posts
Honey bee

You can’t host or pay for your own shower. People will find out what is going on even if you don’t say anything.

Post # 6
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

For the names, give your mom a list of all the people invited. Hopefully when they call, she will make out the names enough to figure out which person it is. Then, she can just put a check mark next to their names. That will also keep all the RSVPs in one easy, visible spot for you to look at, rather than her trying to write down all the names of people when they call. 

Post # 8
996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs.Firefly1:  If you’re paying for your own shower then they should RSVP to you–otherwise there will be confusion because guests will assume that it is a surprise and the person the RSVPed to is throwing the party

I have to wonder–is there a reason why you are throwing your own shower and footing the bill? It’s usually not that expensive and typically your family or friends are supposed to throw it for you–even if they can only afford a potluck at their house it’s about the gesture

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