Post # 1
I wanted my fiance and I to get engagement pictures taken this spring or fall, but I’ll be honest: I’m afraid they’ll be terrible. lol.
I’ve never really been photogenic and neither is my fiance. Neither one of us is happy with our current weight. My fiance has said a million times how much he hates the way he looks — he shaves his head and wants to lose, like 40 lbs. I try to help him build up his self image but … sometimes he’s worse than a girl.
And then there’s me, who just does typical girl nit-picking about my appearance.
I know a good photographer can make anyone look good but I just had to vent that I am really nervous about engagement pics AND wedding pics.
It’s pretty bad. My avatar pic thingy is almost 3 years old and even though THAT was professionally taken I still see flaws in myself. Blech. Don’t want this happening with engagement/wedding photos.
Anybody else have picture anxiety???
Post # 3
FI and I do, too! Out of five-years worth of pictures, there’s barely a handful of pictures we like of us. It’s really sad.
I know I get anxious at the sight of a camera. I hate my smile and everyone encourages me to smile with my teeth, which is my least favorite kind of smile for myself. I have a round face (I get that from my Dad’s side) and sometimes, for some reason, my left eye looks to be drifting in pictures! My FI hates his smile, too, so while he thinks he’s smiling, he actually can look quite somber. And he blinks so often and never looks relaxed. And we’re not pleased with our weight, either.
We’re getting pictures done for our STD and I joke with our friend who’s doing our pictures that we’ll need a lot done so we can choose the ones that we look the most normal in.
Post # 4
@Stace126: I’ve got major picture anxiety, but I’m hoping for the best. I think the engagement pics are a great idea because you’ll be able to see what your photog can do for you and they’ll be able to determine any adjustments they need to make for the big day.
Post # 5
I can tell you we are in the same boat..me and FI just took some e pics and so far I look fat in all of them and FI doesnt like the way he looks either. Now I am really worried about our photos on our wedding day.
Post # 6
Try being over 40 and overweight!
I was super worried about ours too. Here is a thread with some of ours.
I’m sure you pictures will be great. Find a photographer that you are comfortable with and they will make you look great.
No matter what your love and inner beauty will shine through. 🙂
Post # 7
@luvmyDwight: Your pictures are so cute!
Post # 8
@Stace126: I feel the same way!! We are getting married this Oct and have not done epics yet. I might give in and do them sometime this summer just to get comfortable with our photographer. I say just go ahead and do them….you might be happily suprised!
@luvmyDwight: No way did you just call yourself overweight!! You are stunning!
Post # 9
@luvmyDwight: Your pics really are amazing! *I* love your Dwight now, hahaha!
I agree that it’s all about finding a photographer who can put you at ease. Also, PRACTICE in the mirror! I wish I had done that more before our pics.
Post # 10
I know how you feel. FI and I took engagement photos and I worried about how I’d look the entire (extremely long 2 month) wait. Well it turns out I was right to worry because we both looked bad in all of them, and FI is usually pretty photogenic. There isn’t a single one we liked enough to purchase. We happened to win a free engagement session at a bridal show and decided to do it for the heck of it, and we really clicked with them. There are actually a handful of pictures that I love. I still find flaws in myself no matter what, but they really were able to photograph us at our best angles and in nice lighting. We decided to go with them for the wedding, and I’m a lot less worried about looking bad in all my wedding photos.
I recommend doing an engagement shoot. I’m really glad we did because if we hadn’t, I don’t think we would have been happy with our wedding pictures. Once you find the right photographer you’ll feel a lot more at ease about the pictures.
Post # 11
Oh dear lord! I am soooo not looking forward to pictures! I just dont like cameras! Maybe its cuz my mom never liked having her photo taken but whatever the reason i feel i always look chubby in pics. Id like to lose a few inches but its so hard! I lack disipline. But maybe it will be ok. My avatar is of our engagment day and i was five months pregnant but i loved my body in pregnancy. I actually lost weight cuz my metabolism sped up! Now after the birth a year and a half later my bodies changed a bit and i know my hips are wider! It sucks cuz i have always despised my curvy hips. I only ever wear yogo pants cuz i hate jeans!!!
Post # 12
Well, let’s look at this reasonably.
A good photographer will make you look good. But you will still look like you.
One way I took the edge off was I took my ugly self to get boudoir photographs taken. And although I didn’t morph into Angelina Jolie or anything, the experience itself was a nice confidence-booster and admittedly, so over-the-top that in the end, I just had to shake my cellulite-riddled a**, shrug, and smile. Maybe a year from now I’ll have kale-eaten and treadmilled my cellulite away, but that’s not today. And that’s fine. The boudoir picture experience helped me say that–i’m not ideal, but I’m fine.
But let me ask you–doesn’t it hurt YOU when your FI says those things about himself? If my DH said he was ugly or nitpicked himself away, I’d seriously want to cry–who wants to hear someone they love say those things about themselves?
There’s a lesson in that: don’t say those things to yourself either. And that goes for your FI too.
Post # 13
I think doing some engagement pics would be good for you guys to practice being in front of the camera and establishing a sort of comfort zone with your photographer. That way on your wedding day perhaps you both wont be as self conscious about it.
Post # 14
In my experience with bridal portiats, engagement photos, and all of our wedding photos I think you truly have to forget about everything and everyone else. We truly had a blast with both of our photographers on our wedding day and for engagment photos. We made goofy faces and were poking and picking at each other and had a blast and we have wonderful photos because of that. But we also were outside on a gorgeous and didn’t do the typical posed shots.
The biggest compliment that we got on our wedding day was from our photographers and they stated its nice to see a couple so in love and actually like each other on their wedding day. FORGET EVERYTHING ELSE AND LOVE EACH OTHER!