We are swingers – ask away!

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Hmmmm…. How do you even bring up the subject? I would be so hurt.

Also,you said you date couples,is it ever one on one?

Oh,and when I think of swingers I think of a room full of people just going at ot. Is that just tv? Lol

thanks!

Post # 4
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1969 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

  • How long have you been swinging?
  • In what stage of your relationship did you decide to start swinging (dating, engaged, married)?
  • Did you plan for it to be a one time or temporary thing going into it, or is this something that you guys have planned to do throughout the duration of your marriage?

 

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

Interesting! Definitely not for me as I am way too jealous (and so is DH) but kudos to you for making it work!

Question: You say as a couple you “date” other couples, so do you together decide when to stop seeing another couple? Or can one of you choose to continue seeing the couple while the other partner moves on? How does that work?

Post # 8
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225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@swingerbee:  Do you think your relationship could function if one of you were monogamous? How many of your friends and family know? Do you have children/plan on continuing the lifestyle if you have children? What are some of the rules and restrictions you guys have set up for each other? Do you like to get to know his partners and vice versa?

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Do you guys ever date one individual?

I have a friend who is one bisexual girl, and she dates couples that swing. But only both at the same time.

Is that a common “thing”?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

So interesting!  I fully support anyone’s choices as long as the people in it are happy/ fulfilled.

 

What’s your ratio of in-marriage sex to swinging-sex? Sorry I don’t know how else to describe these haha 🙂

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I don’t mean this to sound judgemental, so please don’t take offense, but why be married at all? To me, swinging or open marriages go against what I believe a marriage is. I can grasp the behavior in a romantic relationship, just not marriage. Can you explain to me what marriage means to you as a part of a couple who aren’t monogamous? Did you always feel like being monogamous was not part of who you are as a woman? If for some reason something happend to your husband, would swing with your next husband (hypothetically), or is the swinging something specific to your relationship with this particular man?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Another question!  Do you ever have events occur where one of you IS feeling hurt, weird, etc.?

Post # 13
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

How do you meet other couples who are swingers? Is it always at swinger clubs? Do you worry about STDs? DH and I don’t think we could ever be swingers or polyamorous, but we are both facinated by the whole concept. 

 

Post # 14
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Just for the record, although I have my own beliefs on swinging/open relationships, I fully support your right to do whatever makes you and husband happy. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

What was your first time like? (Not when you first went to the club, but your first being intimate?) Thanks for being so open with us!

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Also if you don’t mind me asking more than one question, on average how many times does this happen in a year, or is it more of an on going process throughout the year? And when did you realize this was the lifestyle for you, and your relationship?

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