- Mrs. Trout
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
My FI and I have an engagement ring dilemma. Many months ago, FI asked me what type of engagement ring I wanted. I found a beautiful vintage style micro-pave ring, with engraving and milgrained edges, on Blue Nile. I sent the link to my FI and he agreed that it was beautiful, but didn’t want to buy it directly from Blue Nile.
You see his parents started a jewelry business about 30 years ago, and the store is now being run by his brother, so naturally he wanted to support his family’s business and buy the engagement ring from them. I had no problem with this, I just wanted a similar style ring.
So what transpired was, my FI sent his brother the pictures of the ring I liked, and he then forwarded them on to another jeweler, who specializes in making ring settings. This jeweler made a wax casting and hand cast the setting, an almost exact replica of the ring I liked. He then sent the setting back to my future BIL, who set the center stone, a marquise, and then shipped it to my FI.
In all the nervousness and excitement, my FI barely looked at the ring when it arrived, and proposed to me that very night. I was very excited when he put the ring on my finger and I saw that it was similar to the ring that I wanted!
However, upon closer inspection we both noticed A LOT of flaws with the ring. The milgrained edges look very poorly done on the entire right hand side of the ring. In one spot underneath the prongs, the milgraining is completely absent, just a blank spot on the ring. The point where the prongs are fixed to the ring, it looks like a bad weld-job. The bottom prong that holds the marquise is nicked on the underside, and it’s bent to the left, AND the diamond looks slightly crooked to me. On top of all of that, the diamond has a visible black spot on the left-hand edge. Meaning, it’s even visible when I hold it out at arms length.
I would like to say, that I feel really awful complaining about the ring. My FI is so upset, because of the quality of the ring and feels like he made a mistake buying it from his brother.
I did not want FI to spend a lot of money on my engagement ring, and I told him as much. I didn’t need an expensive ring, just a quality piece of jewelry. But I am really disappointed in the quality of the ring we received from his brother, I feel like it was wrong of him to sell FI a ring that had so many issues.
What also upsets us, is my FI assured me that his brother would sell the ring to him at cost, so no extravagant jewelry store mark-ups. But, I just built a ring on the Blue Nile website, with the setting I liked, and a better quality stone, (same size, just no visible inclusions) and the price is the exact same price that my FI owes to his brother. How is that possible?
We do not want to start a family war by sending the ring back to his brother and shopping somewhere else. But we are both really unhappy with the poor quality of the ring, it’s looks like a poorly executed imitation of the Blue Nile ring.
Any thoughts on how to handle this tactfully?? Help!