Post # 1
Me and my FI have been through so much in our short 22 years. No one should be as accustomed to death this early in life…I’ve lost both of my parents and he’s lost his mom. We got engaged on August 15 while we were on vacation and left the next afternoon. When we landed at 6am on the 17th, I found out my grandpa passed away the night before. I’m an only child and he was the only living family I had left. Now, only a short 2 months and 2 days later, my FI’s grandfather passes away.
He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer this summer and has had a lot of trouble since then. He had to stop chemo and radiation because he was too sick and he had dwindled down to 115lbs. Just last week he had another procedure and afterwards he was in the best spirit he had been in the past couple of months. We really thought things were looking up.
Fi is blaming himself because he said yesterday he was going to call him but decided to wait til today, and it was too late. He also didn’t get to spend as much time with him last weekend because he was in a hurry to get to a wedding we were in. I feel so bad for FI. Idk what to say to him, but he understands because he was just in my position 2 months ago. Fi’s great-grandma also passed away earlier this year. This has easily been the most stressful year of my life and I’ve had several rough years.
We have lost the 2 most important men in our lives within a matter of 9 weeks. I’m trying to focus on the positives, which is neither of them are sick and suffering anymore. I am also glad, that both of them got to see my in my wedding dress before they passed and that they knew we were going to name our future son after them. I am so glad we could share those moments with them, along with many others. I am just so ready for 2015. It couldn’t come any sooner.
Post # 2
Oh no… I’m so so so sorry for your loss(es). I couldn’t imagine losing my parents. Losing my grandparents has been hard enough for me. Keeping you in my thoughts <3
If you two can pull through this, you can pull through anything. It sounds like you’re both very lucky to have one another.
Post # 3
damarajade: Thank you. Losing my pawpaw was so hard, even though I had been trying to prepare myself for it. And I knew there was a chance we would lose our grandfathers pretty close, but of course it’s still hard when it actually happens.
That is so true! We have always known there was a reason why we were together. He lost his mom right before we met 5 years ago. I helped him with that, although I didn’t realize it at the time, because I knew exactly what he was going through and could be there for him. Now, we’ve both helped each other this year. It was a rough summer because I was across the world in South Africa for half of it when he got diagnosed and I couldn’t be here for my FI. But like you said, if we can make it through this year, we can make it through anything.
Post # 4
ksn1219: I’m so sorry that you’ve (both) had another loss. So glad that you have each other.
Post # 5
I am truly sorry for all of your losses. I have lost my grandma, dad, uncle, and aunt, so I do understand. I am comforted and confident that I will see them all again, only healthy and happy… I still cry about them sometimes… I hope that you guys will make lots of wonderful friends that are like your family. I hope that you have a life that is full of love and happiness. When you realize how short and unpredictable life is, you take much less for granted and are more grateful for what you have. Blessings to you both!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I’m so sorry for your losses. It sounds like they were well loved and knew it, which is the most any of us can ask for late in life.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are clearly an amazingly strong woman. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through/have gone through. im glad you both have each other to lean on in tough times, even in the darkest of times that can be a blessing. Keeping you in my thoughts.
Post # 8
creativeplannertobee: I am too! We have to be there for each other!
lolot: That is so true! They both lived full, long lives. I can only hope I have the same for the next 50+ years.
bebelicious1: All of that is right on point. We have trouble explaining our “family” because it is really confusing and none of us are blood related. I’m closer to his grandparents than I ever was to my dad’s parents (the one who died was my mom’s dad). When you go through the stuff we’ve been through, it definitely changes your outlook. I’m just so glad that we have each other and we (unfortunately) know what each other is going through. I know that we will see all of our family again one day and they will be happy and healthy.
FutureMrsHodgy: Thank you. You don’t know how strong you can be, until being strong is your only choice. I have been through a lot, but I often don’t realize how strong I am. I couldn’t be more blessed to have him by side. I know that if we can get through all this stuff, we can get through anything. I definitely didn’t expect to go through all of this within 2 months of getting engaged. This is suppose to be such a happy time and it’s been far from that. All I’ve been doing is planning funerals and dealing with stresses around the will and my greedy family.