(Closed) We can’t afford the ring he wants. :(

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I know this is horrible, but does the jeweler offer any financing? 

Is there any way you can get an odd job or money elsewhere and surprise him with it if you get enough money?

Worse case, you plan on doing an “upgrade” at some point. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, while I know it’s tough and you and your FI will be bummed, I feel that there is nothing about our wedding that I would select that would jeopardize our financial future such as a down payment/security deposit.  Would you rather have a place to live or this particular band?  The thing is, you might end up purchasing something that isn’t your favorite now but once the dust settles from the wedding, you can both start stocking some money away each pay period to go toward the rings you’ve originally wanted.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Have you looked online to see if there are any rings that are similar that he likes?

I got FI’s ring at Larson Jewelers and have nothing be awesome things to say about them!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

For my ring, we just focused on getting an amazing diamond and went as cheap as possible on the setting with the thought that we would eventually upgrade. Maybe you can do that for now with your wedding bands, I don’t see anything wrong with living below your means for now and on an anniversarry going out and getting something amazing.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

How about taking money out of the wedding budget for it? Since the ring is really the most lasting physical thing about getting married, I think that should be a top priority.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Have you checked out overstock? We got FH’s band there a tungston for $43! at the store around here it was $300-450!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery

We went through this too….Mr. L wanted a really fancy band with diamond inlay, but with the crazy cost we couldn’t swing it…we ended up going another route and he finally found something he liked!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Def check online…here are some great deals if you do your homework.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Perhaps you two could get a more affordable ring right now and upgrade his ring on your one year anniversary – many couples do this with a woman’s engagement ring so I don’t know why it couldn’t be done for a man’s wedding band.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

FH also wanted a ring with a little more bling, but didn’t want to spend more than $700 right now. So, we got him a tungsten ring with three little diamonds for $450, and plan to get him the ring he wants in a few years. (of course, he still says that my ring is the only one I’m ever getting . . . since he could upgrade his numerous times before reaching the cost of mine)

But Overstock has a lot of great options with small bling to them for under $100.

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