We can't afford to have champagne at our wedding =(

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
6171 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

can’t people just use their drink to toast?

we are not providing a champange toast, they can use whatever they are drinking, be it water, wine, or whiskey.


Post # 4
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Just get one bottle for you and your fiance. Then at least its something the two of you can share and maybe our moh and best man. 🙂

Post # 5
9 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

if your wedding wasent so close I would say dump the caterer and find a new one.  Not giving you a contract with specifics is a big red flag.  But, since your wedding is so close, maybe if you want champaign he could just supply it to you and your fi instead of everyone.  We couldn’t afford to have champaign for everyone sat our wedding, but our caterer said they would get some for just us.

Post # 6
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@peachacid:  Seriously? How many people even truly enjoy champagne? Not me… I just drink it for the booze factor.

I know I’ve mentioned this on the bee before but the best wedding I’ve been to had jello shots as the toast… 

FI hates weddings – but this is the one thing he remembers about all the weddings we’ve been to… Oh, and the burgers at another wedding we attended – he remembers the burgers too…

So – maybe consider something that’s not as pricey but a lot more memorable?

Post # 7
2291 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I don’t think anone will care if you don’t have champagne. I certainly wouldn’t. Just let them toast with whatever they’re drinking.

Post # 8
1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@peachacid:  Don’t stress! We didn’t have champagne and our guests just toasted with whatever they were drinking and it was a non-issue.

To be honest from the weddings I have been to, guest have a few sips and thats it so most of it gets wasted anyways.

If you reallllly want some, like pp mentioned see if you can get one bottle so that you and hubbs can share some.


Post # 9
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@HappinessIsInDaisies:  +1. Just get a bottle for you and your fiance to do the toast. 

Also, your caterer sucks and a 100% markup is insane.


Post # 10
2657 posts
Sugar bee

Just have people use what they’re drinking for the toast.  At most weddings I’ve been to, people only drink champagne at the toast and I don’t think people would notice if it’s missing.  However, the lack of contract details from the caterer is really sketchy.  After the wedding is over, I would write an honest online review of the caterer and let other brides know.

Post # 11
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I mean, apparently, if there is nothing in the contract anything goes. He can charge whatever he likes. We had an almost-venue start doing this to us with the catering costs (i.e. contract didn’t say chafing dishes were provided by caterer, so suddenly we were responsible for that cost on top of many other things) and we dropped them. Luckily we hadn’t signed a contract with them yet.

Why would he let you know the markup anyway?
That strikes me as bad business practice.

If it’s not in your contract and your caterer is doing whatever he wants anyway, I don’t really see why you can’t say (in writing) “Hey, since you never gave us a contract with details about the alcohol in it, we’d like you to return the wine you purchased without our written approval.”

And then I might be tempted to say “Additionally, since there are no details in the contract about how the alcohol will be purchased and at what price, we will be ordering the alcohol directly throuh the state and paying the bill, we will let you know when to pick it up.”

I mean, I think I’d get some legal advice before I said that.
But it would be tempting.

Do you know any lawyers?
Might be time to contact one for advice (hopefully as a favor) before your prices skyrocket.
Even just a letter from a legal authority to your caterer might help.
It makes it tricky though, if you already signed a contract that left details out. 🙁

[ETA] My mom cares about the kind of champagne we’re having, but she had a champagne wedding, so she might be the exception to the norm. 
She is still so proud of her pre-wedding champagne tasting party which decided the wedding champagne (which she bought cases of apparently).
My sister and I just roll our eyes at her.

I secretly wanted a beer toast!
Obviously mom is opposed, so I’m not even going to go there.

Post # 12
2137 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We can’t either.  We’ll get a bottle for my and FI, but everyone else can use what they’re drinking to toast.  I’ve been to a wedding with champagne and one without, and I promise, at the one without no one missed it.  I love champagne, but a lot of people don’t, and it’s not worth the mark-up when so much will be wasted.  The toasts will still be beautiful and meaningful, and everyone will enjoy their drinks, instead of taking an obligatory sip of champagne and then leaving the glass on the table.

That does suck about your caterer though.  Definitely a little shady.  🙁

Post # 13
6455 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We didn’t have champagne for our toast either. The cost was so expensive that we decided that people could toast with whatever they happened to be drinking. I can only remember one wedding that had actual champagne offered for the toasts.

Post # 14
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I *promise* no one will miss it 🙂

Post # 15
4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@peachacid:  If you dodn’t have a contract, then make up some of your own rules!  Oh your champage costs 100 dollars a bottle well here is my case and my glasses and my guests can have fun blowing the corks off.

No contract = no problem  😀

Post # 16
3251 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We are just toasting with whatever is in our glasses! don’t stress…. I bet you won’t even think about it in the moment

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