- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
My fiance is not religious, and my intermediate family is non-religious (the rest of our families are Catholics). We are having a ceremony at our reception site, and we know that we do not want to have a Catholic ceremony. The dilemma is that while my fiance wants to have a secular ceremony that is 5 minutes tops (no music, no anything – just walk in, exchange rings, say the shortest possible vows and then exit), I want something a bit more than that.
I consider myself a Hindu, though I wasn’t raised as one. I was hoping to incorporate something from a traditional Hindu ceremony into our ceremony to make it a bit more personal. For example, a short reading from the Bhagavad Gita, or incorporating the seven steps into the ceremony. My fiance really, really doesn’t want this. He doesn’t see the need to do anything that would unnecessarily extend the ceremony, since his goal is to get married and not to perform any “rituals” or listen to music or stand there while the officiant speaks.
How can we compromise? I also want a short ceremony (15 minutes to 20 minutes). Since my family is not Hindu, they wouldn’t understand why I would do the seven steps or a reading from the Gita, but on the other hand, I would just like to incorporate a small piece of myself into the ceremony. Help!