Post # 1
I know bar decisions threads can get pretty heated on here, hopefully this one won’t. FI and I have decided to to beer/wine only at the reception to save money. Our guests WILL be able to go to another part of the restaurant to order mixed drinks if that is what they want to do.
Well, now I’m feeling “cheap” with this decision. Please tell me that what we’re doing is fine!
Also, how do we let people know it’s beer/wine only?
Post # 3
What you’re doing really is fine! I’m not a fan of cash bars, I’ll admit, but as long as you provide SOMETHING, it’s totally fine! I’m perfectly happy drinking beer or wine all night, and would greatly appreciate the host providing that 🙂
Post # 4
I’ll admit that as a liquor drinker I personally would be kind of bummed to not have a complete open bar. BUT, I think it’s best that you do what you can with your budget. You are providing some sort of alcohol to your guests and allowing them to purchase different drinks if they aren’t happy with the selection, so don’t feel bad about it at all.
Post # 5
Most people would be totally fine drinking only beer or wine (I’m a wine only girl, myself!). I think what oyu’re doing is 100% fine. You are hosting drinks for your guests – it will be fine! 🙂
Post # 6
Will you be providing non-alcoholic drinks as well? Like soda? I don’t drink beer or wine, though I do drink liquor, but i wouldn’t have a problem with just a beer/wine open bar as long as I had another option since I wouldn’t drink either of those. I agree with PP as long as you provide something for your guests, thats fine and you are not being cheap!
Post # 7
Oh yes, people will be able to get soda as well!
Post # 8
No, you’re not being cheap. You had to draw the line somewhere.
I LOVE that you can still purchase other drinks (because I prefer liquor) or you have the option of free beer and wine. It’s a win for everyone.
Post # 9
I’m doing the same thing! Beer, wine and champagne. 🙂
Post # 10
We did the same thing – it was totally fine! No one missed it at all, everybody was able to find something they liked. Don’t worry about it. (And we didn’t bother saying anything about it beforehand Went fine.)
Post # 11
I don’t think you’re being cheap at all. We’re only doing beer and wine, but spreding via word of mouth that our friends are welcome to BYOB if they want something else. We can do the byob because we’re having an outdoor tented reception. You’re guests have the option to purchase hard liquor drinks if they so choose. I think you’re super good to go.
Post # 12
The event coordinator at my venue (one of the nicer venues in my area) said that open bar is less and less common nowadays because of the economy. She often sees people who do a completely open bar for cocktail hour and then switch to beer & wine (and non-alcoholic drinks) for the rest of the reception, with cocktails available for purchase. We’re doing a similar thing because we just can’t afford it, plus I think many guests drink beer or wine anyway. I know how you feel though…
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I’ve been to several weddings that were served just beer and wine (without the option of buying hard alcohol) and they were all super-fun and everyone imbibed plenty with zero complaints of no booze…Don’t stress, no one will care!
Post # 14
Regardless of what other posters think – they don’t usually live in your area nor are they invited to your wedding. You have to do what is within your budget. I think it’s totally fine to have only beer and wine.
Perhaps some signage on the bar would be a subtle way to indicate that it’s only beer and wine. I’d do something like this:
(listing of options)
(listing of options)
Mixed drinks are available for purchase at (direct them to other location).”
Post # 15
Not at all! Im sure everyone will be more than happy with that! your guest will be getting more hosted choices then ours!
Post # 16
Ditto on what camrie said! =)
I think people will be happy with whatever they are provided. Even happier if they have the option to purchase what is not provided free to them.