We didn't send STD's, so when should we send our invites?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: When should our invites go in the mail?
    Send them out mid-December : (10 votes)
    50 %
    Send them out early December : (5 votes)
    25 %
    Send them out late November : (4 votes)
    20 %
    Send them out mid-November : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @CakeyP:  No more than 6-8 weeks before the RSVP due date.  If you send them too early you chance more people losing the invitation or forgetting to RSVP.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1243 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would not send them until January. People are too busy at Christmas, so you likely won’t get much of an early response rate, and there is a far greater chance that the invites will get lost in the holiday shuffle.

     

    Let your out of town guests know by word of mouth, or in your christmas cards, when your wedding is. Chances are everyone you know locally already knows the date.

    We sent our invites 5 weeks before the wedding. Our attendance rate was very good, and there were very few RSVPs I had to chase down. We didn’t do STDs, but considering everyone we invited was friends and family, they already knew when our wedding was anyway.

     

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    6505 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @beachbride1216:  +1

    I think 6-8 weeks is usually plenty of time for people to plan if most of the guests live in the area.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1208 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

    @CakeyP:  I didnt send an STD either but I believe you are not supposed to send them out more than 6-8 weeks prior anyhow.

    Post # 7
    Member
    11722 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You should send your invitations 6-8 weeks before your wedding, and no sooner.  You do still have time to do STDs if you want, since they really only need to be sent 4-6 months ahead of time.

    Post # 8
    Member
    5087 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would send them in January. If you send them too early people will lose them &/or forget them. I’m getting married in April & I’m not sending invites out until end of Feb. I really hope my advice is useful. I also didn’t send std’s. So no worries about them either.

    Post # 10
    Member
    11722 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @CakeyP:  I’m 99% sure I’ve read somewhere that 4-6 months is a good timeline.  Depending on where you get them done (and if you already have the photos), you can get them really quickly.  Wedding Paper Divas has a ridiculously fast turnaround time, and great quality!

    Post # 11
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    1071 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

    You can send an email or Facebook STD now and then the invite as normal if your worried people won’t be able to fix there schedules

    Post # 12
    Member
    1243 posts
    Bumble bee

    @CakeyP:  Why not just mention it in your Xmas cards? I seriously think STDs are a massive waste of money. Postage, printing, the effort in addressing, not to mention they remove any and all flexibility you have with your guest list. If you send a STD, you are obliged to send and invite. They are a recipe for drama, IMO.

    Everyone likes to get christmas cards, and you can kill 2 birds with one stone!

    Post # 13
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    3514 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @CakeyP:  I’d send the STD’s NOW and then two months before the wedding send the invitations!

    Post # 14
    Member
    886 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @beachbride1216:  +1

    We sent ours out a little earlier than we should have and had to chase down a bunch of people.  A lot of people simply forgot, some people said they wouldn’t know until closer to due to babysitter etc and one person just plain lost it.

    I agree with PP … send your invitations out first week of January.

     

    Post # 15
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    712 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @CakeyP:  

    If your wedding isn’t until March, November or December is much too early to send out invitations. Send them out early January and ask for RSVPs the first week of February. Be prepared to call some guests if they have not responded because it happens all the time.

    For my vow renewal, I am sending out my invitations the last week of July and asking for RSVPs the month before our celebration.

     

    Post # 16
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    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    You can send save the dates out within a month or so (because that’s not too late and it sounds like ppl need to get save the dates due to date change) and then send invites out in early January. 

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